Frustrated!!!

I just don’t feel okay at the moment. I am angry for some reason and I’m angry at certain people within our society in the modern World. There are many things that should be said or done which are just being ignored.

For example many people just talk about having a night out everyday of the week till the weekend finally arrives for them. Then they complain about not having money or having a hangover. I do not think many people stop and take time to reflect on their life and their actions. Many do not even stop to think about people who have died until someone close to them dies and that is when they remember life is not about partying 24/7.

Many forget to realise that they should have some shame and not just be half naked in town every night waiting for some guy to pull them. Of course you are going to be pulled and used if you are most nights looking desperate. Be subtle.

Life is short and we are all on a train and have to get off on our own stops. No one will help us getting off and we have to do it alone. It is best we make memories that are good and involves our families or someone we are going to have a future with for life. Time is our biggest enemy and especially for girls who do all that posing half naked at clubs or even in the day. You may think your youth and beauty will last forever but if partying is all you do then you won’t have anyone who loves you when you get past 40+.

You have a better life if you are using your heart to build relationships and not your body. Guys are not any better either because they play around with girls and then they are alone in their old age because they have no wife and no kids. Some despise their parents because they don’t let them do what they want but life is a funny. Thing is that when some will end up alone in their old age with their parents dead they will deeply regret not listening to them…this includes boys and girls.

I listened to my parents in time and I did something about my life and set myself on the right path!

Secrets of the female mind revealed

Struggling to understand her reasoning and behaviour? Let science explain the intricacies of the female mind.

Go to a busy pub in any town or city in Britain tonight and there’s every chance you’ll overhear a bunch of blokes talking about the mysteries of the female mind.

“I just don’t understand her,” one might say. “She’s so emotional,” another might pipe up. “She’s a slave to her hormones,” a third might interject.

These are all cliches, of course, but within each lies a nugget of truth. For sound biological or evolutionary reasons, men and women do think differently. Here are some of the scientifically verified secrets of a woman’s mind, because forewarned is forearmed.

Are women more jealous?

It’s a widely held view that women are more jealous than men. They are more possessive (the theory goes) and more likely to fly off the handle at any sign of interest from competing females.

Research has found that it’s not quite that simple. In fact, men and women both get jealous, but over subtly different things. A study published last year in the journal Personality and Individual Differences discovered that when men suspect infidelity, they’ll ask more questions about sex. When women suspect it, they’ll ask more questions about emotions.

That chimes with earlier research and evolutionary theory. We men are more jealous about physical infidelity because it calls into question our paternity (this is all deep down in our subconscious), and our biological raison d’etre is to pass on our genes.

A woman doesn’t have that worry, of course. She knows the child is hers. Instead, she is more concerned with emotional infidelity, because it threatens the protective family unit she needs to bring that child up securely.

That might explain why your partner can get jealous over what you consider to be a supportive, friendly, but sexually innocent relationship with a female friend.

Are women more emotional?

This is another old chestnut. Women are more emotional. They shed tears at every opportunity. They always know how to turn a minor drama into a major crisis.

According to the latest research, there’s a nugget of truth in that. Women are not more emotional, but they are more prone to ‘emotional stress’. That might explain why she gets mad at you for your more laid-back attitude to being late, or getting lost, or financial difficulties.

In the study, levels of a stress hormone that barely registered in male rats excited the brains of female rats. And though the subjects were rodents, researchers say the results may well explain the difference in human male and female attitudes to stress.

“This may help to explain why women are twice as vulnerable as men to stress-related disorders,” said study leader Dr Rita Valentino, of The Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia. Men’s brains tend to cope better with stress hormones, making them less likely to turn that drama into a crisis.

But it’s just as true to say that men are too unemotional, rather than women are too emotional. One neuro-imaging study found that men are simply less equipped to read emotion than women, which might explain why we consider women over emotional.

Are women more moody?

A man who has forgotten to put the toilet seat down or take the rubbish out and received a verbal volley from his partner in return will often mutter about her irrational moodiness. And those poor put-upon males may have a point.

Aside from the hormonal changes associated with the female menstrual cycle (see below) new research also suggests that women may be naturally the moodier gender. Scientists at the University of Montreal found that men make 52% more of a hormone called serotonin than women. Serotonin is also known as the happy hormone, which might give you a clue as to what low levels can lead to.

Are women slaves to their hormones?

Women may make less serotonin, but in fact both sexes are slaves to their hormones. If you don’t believe us just visit a prison for violent male offenders. You’ll find an awful lot of testosterone swilling about in there.

That’s an extreme example, but it shows what hormones can do. Both men and women are affected by hormones, but on an everyday level (away from the prison yard) female hormonal imbalance can be more acute than its male equivalent. That’s why women suffer from the sometimes severe mood swings associated with PMS.

It’s also true that women interfere with their hormones more than men, principally through the contraceptive pill. Scientists at Stirling University claimed last year that the pill affects women’s choice in men. They found that women who took the pill were more likely to go for caring, steady men, rather than bad boys and dangerous, macho types.

Nobody’s quite sure why that should be, but there’s no doubt that hormones play a huge part in male and female personality. It’s just that the peaks and troughs of the female cycle tend to be more noticeable to the men in their lives.

Are women more illogical?

It’s certainly true, according to evolutionary psychology, that women should be more illogical. Simon Baron-Cohen, a psychologist at the University of Cambridge, has suggested that women’s thinking is more likely to be characterised by ‘empathising tendencies’, and male thinking by ‘systemising tendencies’.

Or to put it more simply, women are people people, and men thing people. Women are better at empathising with other people, understanding them and figuring out character and personality traits. That’s because these skills were more useful to them in our evolutionary past.

Men had to be better at making tools and working out strategies for tracking and killing prey. So men are more likely to be ‘things’ people. We work things out, master them and then apply them to our advantage.

And that’s why, to us, women can seem a bit flaky and illogical, while to them, we can seem too practical and unemotional. It’s why we try to solve their problems for them, when they only want a sympathetic shoulder to cry on.

Of course, we should add that this doesn’t apply to everyone all the time. You get some very practical women and some very emotional men. It just means that, on average, women might be a little less practical than men.

What all this shows is that – surprise surprise – men and women really do think differently, some of the time. But there’s no right or wrong, better or worse. Both genders are the way they are for good reason, and it can be useful, and reassuring, to know what those reasons are.

The character traits that women find attractive

Women are attracted to your personality as much as your body. But what, exactly, are they looking for?

We all know what women want in men, right? They want a muscular body (or was it a slender one?). They want long legs (or was it arms?). They want blonde hair (or was it black?).

OK, maybe we don’t know for certain, but what we can be sure of is that it’s not just about looks and physique. In fact, study after study has shown that, while women do value looks to some extent, they don’t prioritise them in the way men do.

Instead, women place a higher emphasis on personality, and the character traits that show you’re a good catch. And that’s true for short-term flings as well as long-term relationships. So here are the personality traits that women go for and how you can show them off.

Kindness
Think nice guys finish last? Think again.

A study published in the British Journal of Psychology found that women hunting for dates viewed kindness and generosity as a priority.

Over 300 volunteers were shown dating profiles, some of which had been adjusted to suggest that the subjects were altruistic. For example, some of the profiles included lines about helping others or volunteering.

Overwhelmingly, the women showed a preference for more altruistic men. “If a man is kind and generous towards others – even strangers – then there’s a good chance that he’d make a good and generous parent,” explained Dr Pat Barclay from University of Guelph, Canada, who conducted the study.

Confidence
It stands to reason that women are attracted to confident men. Confidence is a sign of success, or at least potential. Confident men can get a woman what she wants.

And a study published last year found that women are more sexually attracted to brooding, proud, confident-looking men than their jollier counterparts. In fact, they tended to find shiny happy blokes a bit of a turn-off.

It could be that male displays of pride – even if that’s only shown by facial expression – suggest confidence and status, and women are hardwired to look for high status men. Other studies have found that smiling can be associated with a lack of dominance, and subservient men are not likely to be high up the pecking order. So if you want to attract women, make sure you’re friendly, but don’t stand around grinning like a lunatic.

Humour
It’s not just a cliché: a good sense of humour really can help in the dating stakes.

A study by the University of Northumbria revealed that women who find men funny also consider them more intelligent and honest than their less amusing counterparts. Men who wrote the funniest descriptions of themselves for lonely heart ads were seen as brainier, more genuine and a better bet for a long-term relationship, according to the research.

“The findings provide evidence that women use humour as an indication of a guy’s intelligence,” said Kristofor McCarty, from Northumbria University, who led the study.

“Intelligence is a very attractive quality as a clever man should be more able to provide resources for his offspring.”

But put those cheesy chat-up lines away. The study also found that only genuinely funny men could laugh a lady into bed. Bad gags were given the thumbs down.

Self-delusion
OK, maybe self-delusion is the wrong term. Maybe we should say overblown self-confidence.

A study published in the journal Psychological Science found that ordinary looking men often ended up with attractive women because of sheer persistence and a mistaken belief in their own attractiveness.

The research, from the US, discovered that men could make up for their lack of physical beauty by trying their luck with an increased number of women. They may receive a lot of knock-backs, but they also have the occasional success.

Of course, this self-delusion isn’t an attractive trait in itself, but it does lead ordinary looking men to at least try to charm women with other traits, like their intelligence, wit and generosity. The only lesson to be taken is that, whatever you look like, don’t be put off by rejection. The harder you try, the luckier you’ll get.

Intelligence
If women prize humour as an indicator of intelligence, clearly intelligence must be a prized trait in men.

Other studies have confirmed that women are attracted to brains, regardless of humour. For example, when a team from Elon University in North Carolina showed female students videos of men performing athletic and mental tasks and asked them to pick favourites, the women tended to go for the most intelligent men.

In other words, it’s worth bigging up your academic achievements (subtly, of course – women don’t like boasting) on a first date or even on your internet dating profile, waxing lyrical about culture or society (without hogging the conversation) or maybe just arming yourself with a really good joke.

So there you have it. If you want to increase your chances of attracting the women – or woman – of your dreams, science suggests that kindness, confidence, humour and intelligence – along with perseverance – are the keys to success.

Falling in Love Exposed

This post can help women understand that many men do have feelings and think about the women they like for long periods. There are men out there who take advantage of women who want to care and love them, men find them as easy targets because they fool them by displaying similar actions for a short period of time. Not all men are like that and there are some who stay committed to the person they love. The following list in no particular order is what women ask for in a loving man:

• Listen to her for hours and follow every word
• Share responsibility (bills, decoration, shopping & etc.)
• Talking before making a joint decision
• Look after her
• Show public affection
• Be considerate about her feelings at all times
• Don’t expect to be told what to do
• Buying her a gift
• Taking her out (restaurant, cinema, shopping & etc.)
• Bonding with her family
• Making her No.1 before anyone or anything
• Unconditional love
• Making her dinner sometimes
• Appreciating her personality
• Appreciating her looks (body, clothes & etc.)
• Taking control and having a sense of direction in life
• Financial stability for her offspring to have the best opportunities in life
• Letting her win the argument (fighting causes more problems)
• 100% commitment
• 100% trust (regular communication)
• Giving her some space and time to her own life (work, friends & family)
• Making her feel positive, confident and happy
• A mature relationship
• No regular arguments over the past
• Consistent sense of excitement (activities, intimacy & etc.)
• Both involved in activities around the house
• Maintaining a shared hobby (gym, shopping, books, dancing & etc.)
• Trying something new together
• Telling each other what they have done/how they feel on a day-to-day basis
• Any other I may have left! (you get my point though)

Ok. Since I’m being pretty general and theoretical here let’s get a bit more specific and talk about what every women dreams about: falling in love. Here’s how people fall in love: First, understand you do NOT fall in love with someone when you are in their presence. No. You fall in love when you’re off by yourself, thinking about them afterwards. This is why it is so hypnotically powerful, because you are doing it to yourself, and people are always best hypnotists.

Here’s how it happens: you go out with someone, maybe even one date. And then you go home, and you’re lying there, thinking about them. And, you form an image of them in your mind. And as you do that, you start to list to yourself all the qualities about them that you like, “She’s so, she’s so, she’s really.” Maybe then you picture you and them having lots of fun in all sorts of situations. Then you get that warm, funny feeling right in your solar plexus, and then, the nail in your coffin, you say her name to yourself 2 or 3 times. If you’re really a geek, maybe you even dance around the house like ‘Chandler’ from ‘FRIENDS’. Or you possible go about bringing up her name in every conversation with your friends.

Sound familiar? Now, as you recall the times in your past when you did this, were you then able to stay cool, in control of yourself AND the relationship? Or were you calling her every day, always wanting to see her, and sending her the signal of being clingy, to the point where she, of course, dumped you for a man who showed attributes of masculinity.

A man, in control, pulling her away from you. No, this does not mean all women want men like that. However women do like a man to be a man no matter what. She does not want to be the one who makes you feel better if you are in tears; she wants you to be the strong one and hug her when she is in tears and be a strong character in the relationship that is her rock. Overall this gives the relationship some stability and keeps the connection strong because you will be the one she comes to when there is a problem or when she needs to be loved. If you’re not like that then some women usually have a friend, a man, who is strong and her rock who she can go to. I want to clarify that this is not always the case and every relationship is unique. However many relationships are similar to what I have discussed in this paragraph.

Here’s the point: “Love” is a process people do to themselves! It’s not a “thing” you trip over or a “hole” you fall into. And I know, even though I’m not there watching you, that as I describe it here in this post, you recalled and went through that process yourself, and recalled the feelings associated with it. And if I can do it you, on a blog, when I’m not even there, then you can, if you know how, skilfully describe this (or any other) process to a women in your presence, link it to yourself, and in a matter of minutes, cause her to undergo that process and fall in love with you on the spot, dummy!

Think about this for a second instead of dismissing it as a process that won’t work. The dummy process you did to yourself can now be used to make her fawn all over you, repeatedly and predictably!

Women Aren’t “Nice” – Part 7

WOMEN AREN’T “NICE”

It is critical to realise that women are human beings and not made from sugar and spice. They are just as competitive, manipulative, conniving, game playing, merciless, and ruthless, in their quest to get the man of their choice. Once they “get” their man, they will try to control him.

The irony, of course, is that women detest men that can be controlled by women. However, women WILL try to control you. Sometimes, women are only trying to CONTROL you as a TEST: To see if you are THE MAN.

If you permit them to control you, you FAIL the test.

The desire for control, for both sexes, stems from the massive stakes involved, but it’s far more devastating for a man to submit to control. It destroys his sexual attractiveness.

For a man, it’s always self-destructive for him to submit to any control whatsoever, no matter what the woman’s reason is for attempting to control him. And no matter what, a man ALWAYS ends up coming out more attractive by not submitting.

Since women are not “nice” and since they will attempt to control you with ingenious tactics, it is imperative you keep your guard up and not let any power or control slip through your fingers.

One of the most tragic mistakes a man can make is to let a woman know that something she did actually bothered him at all.

You MUST understand that there is just too much at stake for both men and women to play nicely “by the rules”.

If you let a woman know that something she did hurt you, she will simply use that knowledge AGAINST you, to CONTROL you.

She will try to see how far you will go, in terms of kissing her ass, to try to prevent her from doing it again. And most guys resort to this pathetic bribery. It’s as if these guys are saying, “I’m kissing your ass so you will like me enough to not do that mean thing again.”

An example of this phenomenon is when a man tells a woman that it bothers him when she talks rudely to him. Then, not only does he now seem needy, which is unsexy, but also, she can then use extortion in subtle ways. For example, she might hint that you should do this, that, and whatever else for her or she might do the hurtful thing again.

She may use psychological warfare, and act kind of distant, to see how scared you are of her repeating this behaviour, and what you will do for her to prevent it.

You must not accept ANY crap from any woman, EVER.

As soon as she acts up, you must show how calm you are as you deliver the punishment, the figurative SPANK.

This way, she will sense that it is HER problem, not yours, for acting up.

She will know that you can easily get another, better woman than her.

Of course, if she did anything serious, then dump her and forget about her immediately. ZERO second chances for any real serious shit.

NEVER explain to a woman that she should treat you right.

If she doesn’t know that, DUMP her. She is not worth keeping if she does not treat you right. Tell her not to come back until she shapes up.

And she will usually come running back to you when you throw her to the curb for misbehaving.

It’s called you having self-respect.

And if women sense that NOTHING bothers you, then there is NOTHING they can use against you. And, after testing you to see if you can be hurt or not, and seeing that you indeed cannot, they will usually kiss your feet.

If a woman does not show an immediate massive change, kick her out.

Does that sound like a mean, bitter statement about women?

It’s not. It’s the prescription for reality. 99.999999999 per cent of the time.

You might be tempted after a few good weeks with a woman to think that if she does something out of line, then you could just tell her that what she did hurt. After all, “She loves me, so she wouldn’t want to hurt me again”.

Nope.

If you show her she hurt you, she’ll keep it in her arsenal.

And she will use it again.

Think about it like this: 99.99 per cent of the time, if somebody is being a prick, they know it.

Women know if they are doing something wrong to you.

And if they really don’t know, it’s probably something trivial and not worth you mentioning to her anyway!

So if you DO indicate something hurt you, she will just know how to activate your “hurt button” in the future.

So here’s my recommendation:

Keep your cool at all times.

Don’t let her know that ANYTHING bothers you.

Always, calmly tell her she misbehaved by doing the specific thing she did. Tell her you won’t tolerate it.

But don’t let her feel it actually bothered you.

NEVER argue with her about it. It will NOT HELP, only make things worse. I guarantee it.

Now of course, if you have been with a woman who has been great to you for years, and once in a while she acts up a bit, well that’s perfectly normal you probably aren’t perfect either. You’ve both earned a bit of slack.

There is a BUT, though.

But heed this warning:

Women will sense a guy that they can get to kiss their ass, and will take FULL ADVANTAGE OF HIM till he is barely even a rug to walk over.

And women will deny this till the end of time, even coming up with brilliant “excuses” for their bad behaviour.

Now that you know this, it’s time to stop taking any crap from any woman. You are responsible from now on if you put up with anything that doesn’t feel right.

Think about that the next time you’re about to be “Mr Nice Guy” with any woman. Women understand, relate to, and demand mental toughness more than you realise.

(Notice I used the word mental toughness. Don’t EVER get

PHYSICALLY VIOLENT or even upset with any woman, I’ll explain later why this is so important to your success, and goes way beyond just the law.)

Don’t be Mr Nice Guy. And don’t be Mr Angry. Neither one is cool.

So you know now not to be a nice guy. How exactly should you be?

Pound this short answer into your head: Be “THE MAN”. In the macho, cliché sense.

Oh, I really hope that doesn’t hurt you or insult you.

It shouldn’t, because if you haven’t been THE MAN, it’s not your fault.

For a long time, I didn’t think like THE MAN. It isn’t easy in our inane, politically correct culture.

A lot of guys don’t believe me when I say that being THE MAN, inside, mentally, and even more important, emotionally, is THE VITAL KEY to sparking and sustaining a woman’s desire. These guys think that their looks and money are more important.

WOMEN HATE “EQUALITY” GUYS – Part 6

I would like to point out that these are not my opinions and as my blog states these are opinions that are expressed and shared to be understood.

You must ABSOLUTELY ABANDON the idea that you should make women feel “equal”. Women don’t want to be equal with you, and, logically, they are even more repulsed by the idea of you making them “number one”. I know this is all contrary to popular belief, but remember, it was popular beliefs that screwed up most guys in the first place.

NO, NO, NO.

Women desperately want a man who is SUPERIOR to them. Men and women are NOT the same. Nor should they be. Nor do they want to be. Trying to make a woman feel “equal” to you will only make her feel that you are therefore an INFERIOR male.

Does a superior kiss the ass of an inferior? Does a king bow down to his servant?

No!

I’m not saying women want to be your slave, but they DESPISE the idea of being equal. If you show a woman “equal-ness”, she will feel ZERO sexual desire for you. You will be going right against nature and destroying any attraction she can feel for you.

NO MORE “EQUAL-NESS” WITH WOMEN.

TAKE CHARGE- THAT’S WHAT WOMEN WANT.

Over a million years, women evolved to NOT feel attraction for weakness. And, just as men are ruthless in their desire for a sexy looking woman, women are just as ruthless in desire for a man who is DOMINANT with her and with everyone in his life.

TOTAL CONTROL OF HER WORLD

You must wield all the cards in the game; your deck has to be stacked.

SHE MUST KNOW AND FEEL THAT HER ENTIRE WORLD IS YOU.

Her HAPPINESS is the privilege of having you.

Her MISERY stems from NOT having you.

How do you make this clear?

Simple:

First, be THE MAN always. And then, at the first sign of misbehaviour, DROP her. Make it clear, without anger, that you mean it. If you have been THE MAN all along, she will seriously regret what she has done. More importantly, the cause of that regret is the loss of YOU.

Then, when she comes back crying, KISS HER. This will RAISE her spirits tremendously and totally throw her off balance. And you will have clearly given her the lesson and the feeling that both heaven and hell are in your hands alone.

Does that sound cruel?

Well, the alternative is to become a doormat by not being in total control. Women LOVE to turn guys into doormats if ANY opportunity for it exists.

By the same token, women WORSHIP a man who IS in control. They CRAVE such a man, just as a man craves a hot looking woman. As a matter of fact, women are more ruthless in their quest for a dominant man than men are in their quest for a sexy looking woman, because a man typically can have sex with many women, and yet not invest much.

But a woman, by sheer biology and the dynamics of pregnancy, is investing much more in sex than any man, and therefore must be more ruthless in her search for the “right” partner. And the “right partner” for a woman has always meant a MAN, in CONTROL of everything.

It’s a fact, and better you hear it now than never. I once thought women did like “nice” guys. After all, I thought, “God could never have created a world in which those lovely fair creatures called women could actually sexually desire bad guys”.

Well, they don’t like abuse, but they do like “bad guys”.

The Provider – Part 5

I would like to point out that these are not my opinions and as my blog states these are opinions that are expressed and shared to be understood.

There is another disaster that occurs from being a “nice guy”. Specifically, from being a nice guy that BUYS woman things. Here’s what happens when you buy a woman things:

STAGE ONE: A woman will start to treat you like crap.

STAGE TWO: She will demand that you buy her more and more things.

STAGE THREE: She’ll secretly search for a man who turns her on.

This does not make women “evil”. Let me state some facts before I explain my theory of why this happens:

1. Women have depended on men for a million years for food/shelter.

2. These days, money is that link to food and shelter.

3. Of course, women have also always needed men for sperm.

However, throughout all this time, a woman could go to one man for food and shelter, (and grudgingly accept his sperm), and secretly go to another man especially for what she has been genetically programmed to “know” is his superior-gene-carrying sperm.

In other words, a woman could use one man for providing, and secretly have sex with another man she “knows” will give her superior children. (And sometimes, even more rarely, women use more than one man for each purpose. In general though, women do not desire as many partners as men desire.)

Here are the two clinchers:

There is evidence to show that when women have orgasms, they retain more of the sperm inside of them. It is also a fact that most of a male’s sperm is designed not to impregnate, but to destroy other men’s sperm that may be inside a woman.

If women were so faithful, men would never have evolved to the point that their own sperm has become very much a weapon of self-defence used to counter-strike women’s evolved strategies of “cheating”.

Think about it: If a woman mates with a man that she is using just for food and shelter, and if she is not sexually attracted to him, she would not as likely orgasm. Thus, she’d not as likely retain his sperm. She could then secretly have sex with another man she is attracted to, be more likely to orgasm then, and retain this other man’s sperm. This would increase her chances of having his child.

Research indicates that women are actually most likely to cheat at the very time they are most fertile… Evolution’s way of creating superior children, though it often screws up. By the way, I’m not saying that all women cheat, and I’m not stating that women purposely cheat at the time they are most fertile. These processes are not conscious.

Attraction is based on basic on cues of genetic health and superiority, although these cues sometimes are not accurate indications. A person could easily be attracted to someone and have a child, only to find out later that the father/mother is genetically diseased.

Nonetheless, this is what is built into us as instinct.

So, if you start buying things for a woman, especially if you do it right away, you activate a very powerful instinct in her that blares “Not sexy, but worth using.” This happens to her on a subconscious level, which seems subtle, but is actually devastatingly powerful in its effect.

Better to NEVER buy woman things, so at least if she is not interested in you, she will not pretend to be interested in you. You will know where you stand. But if you buy her things, she may pretend to be interested, as she tries to use you for money, since the idea of using men as providers is pretty ingrained.

Don’t you want a woman to desire you in a sexual sense? Then

DON’T make her think you are a provider. Make it clear that ALL you offer is YOU, which is the ULTIMATE pleasure.

Now, I’m not saying all women are bad. And I’m not saying that after going out for a few months, you can’t do something nice or romantic. At that point, it will be clearer that you are not doing these things to win her desire.

I’m just saying how evolution seems to have worked, and that therefore you should use this information to make sure you DON’T trigger the wrong instinct in women. If you want to find out more about this, read

“Sperm Wars”, by Robin Baker, Ph.D.

THE MAN is the ultimate reward for a woman.

He gives her nothing else.

NICE-GUY EQUALS GOOD-BYE – Part 4

I would like to point out that these are not my opinions and as my blog states these are opinions that are expressed and shared to be understood.

For millions of years, nice guys got demolished by bad guys, and often starved to death from losing out to the competition for resources.

That meant that the women who were attracted to nice guys would probably starve as well, and not reproduce as successfully or often. In other words, with time, there eventually were no women left with the trait of feeling attraction for “nice guys”.

It took evolution a million years to fully weed out any women who liked nice guys. The situation has become so dangerous, that it has reached the point where men must embrace the following creed as pure scientific FACT:

WITH WOMEN, NO GOOD DEED GOES UNPUNISHED.

From an evolutionary point of view, the “war of the sexes” has meant nothing less than immortality or annihilation: Reproduction by having sex, hopefully with someone who has awesome (read: sexy) genes is our only chance to survive beyond our own deaths and into eternity.

This means that it only makes sense to find the best sex partner you can, and also to seize any opportunity to gain control in any way possible.

But in women’s minds, there is a specific irony: “If a man is controllable, he probably is a bad genetic catch not worth exploiting for genes!” But if a man is controllable but usable at least for his “nice-ness”, for his favours, money, etc, which he will provide for her (future) children, a woman will exploit these superficial elements that are not as integral to her genetic survival, and yet not feel attraction toward him. (In her brain, it’s hardwired like this: The most important thing she can get from a man is WINNING DNA, in his sperm. If a man is not confident, he seems like he probably has LOSER DNA in his sperm. Therefore, he would create loser children who may not survive and reproduce. Therefore, no attraction toward him.)

Of course, a man who relies on money and “niceness” may not even be the real father of “his” children! This is why it was so important for men to be the ALPHA MALE/the dominant male/the best catch/THE MAN, since otherwise, the chances of raising someone else’s child increased.

If you act like a pathetic man, forget it. You’re history.

When women act pathetic/meek/nice, it isn’t so harmful, because as long as they got pregnant, the child was theirs for sure. But the best assurance a man could get that the child was his own, was to have sex with many women, and/or to simply make himself so desirable that a woman simply would not likely feel attraction to anyone else. He had to make himself a good catch, which meant becoming more courageous, a better hunter, defender, etc. In other words, for sexual value, a man relied on his “masculine” characteristics and LEARNED ABILITIES.

These abilities and character traits are what women needed from men. Whereas a woman’s sexual worth primarily came from her looks, a man’s value came from what he could do. And acting without confidence makes a woman think you can do NOTHING. It is suicide to your success with women. That is why your behaviour is so important. So not only is “nice-ness” the opposite of masculine, not only is it totally unsexy to women, but women will definitely EXPLOIT it even though they feel no sexual attraction to it.

Sucks, huh? But it’s true.

A woman will usually interpret a good deed as a sign of weakness and inferiority. She will lose attraction to you, and see “an opening”, an opportunity, to use you only for your favours. She will slowly wrest all the power away from you. She will try to use you as far as you will allow.

The more you let her push, the more she will feel you are an inferior male, therefore the more attraction she will lose for you. Simultaneously, she will try to use you more and more exclusively for your favours, since those favours are the only use you have to her. Also, there will be no reason left for her to even pretend that she likes you, since you are already giving her everything- and it seems to her like you always will!

Giving a woman “everything” once seemed like a logical way to make her like you, right? I’m glad that now you know it’s a sure-fire way to make sure she feels NOTHING for you but revulsion.

COGNITIVE DISSONANCE – Part 2

I would like to point out that these are not my opinions and as my blog states these are opinions that are expressed and shared to be understood.

COGNITIVE DISSONANCE

There is another reason why being “nice” is such a calamity, and why being the dominant, alpha male, known as THE MAN, is so crucial. Not only are women attracted to the sexy masculinity of THE MAN, but women are forced to be suspicious of whatever good feelings they can muster for a “nice” guy.

Sounds crazy? Not really. Here’s why: “Nice guys” unknowingly install resistance in women by being so good. When a guy is “NICE” to a woman, then even in the rare case where she may feel desire for him, she will interpret her desire as NOT BEING DESIRE. Rather, she will interpret her feeling as “debt”, or “guilt”.

She will think she is only feeling emotion because she owes the guy, or that she feels sorry for him. In other words, she will be convinced that she feels no real DESIRE.

Whereas, if a guy is a typical jerk, she thinks the guy’s very “jerkiness” is the proof of his sexiness.

After all, the jerk doesn’t even TRY to impress her, so he must be so sexy that he doesn’t need to try! She then feels no guilt, no debt, and no pity. And if she feels ANYTHING, then whatever she feels will be interpreted as RAW, UNADULTERATED, PURE DESIRE.

And the more he acts like a jerk, the more he reinforces her desire, through the following never-ending cycle of “chick” logic: She becomes convinced her desire is pure, that it is her who loves jerko, because it surely isn’t jerko who needs her! And if jerko is so “un-needy” that he can actually continue to be such a jerk, it must be because he is so desirable that he can get away with it.

This makes her desire for him even greater, and as she shows him this desire, he (as a jerk) makes sure to NEVER reciprocate, which makes him seem even sexier because most guys would kiss her ass at this point. She, of course, then desires him even more, and so on and so forth…

Do you get it? If not, read it again, it’s crucial. This phenomenon is known as Cognitive Dissonance, first expounded by professor of psychology Leon Festinger in 1957. What it means is that humans seek inner harmony, also known as CONGRUENCY. We don’t want resistance and conflicting ideas in our head. It doesn’t feel good. So we explain our behaviours and feelings so they seem congruent.

Cognitive Dissonance is very powerful stuff. A woman simply will not feel DESIRE for a man if she has reason to think it’s actually a feeling of debt or guilt.

On the other hand, if a man does not give a woman any reason to suspect her own desire, she will trust her feelings and believe it is desire. In order to ensure that a woman does not question her own feelings, and does not doubt your sexiness and desirability, you must NOT buy her things, do her favours, kiss her ass with compliments, or be submissive in any way. As a matter of fact, always make it clear to a woman that you do

EVERYTHING on YOUR terms, not hers. For example, even if she asks you to kiss her, make sure you don’t. Don’t start an argument either. Rather, keep cool, sly, and in control by telling her something like “I’m not done hugging you”. After hugging her, you can choose to kiss her or not.

The point is that EVERYTHING is under YOUR will and power. If you stay clear of all forms of kissing up, then she will be forced to know that it is HERSELF who has come up with these feelings of lust for you. You must apply this concept all the time with women, forever. Even smiling too much can be a sign of you seeking her approval. Don’t do it.

Being A “NICE GUY”: Formula For Disaster – Part 1

There are going to be a series of posts this week which are split into ‘Parts’.

I would like to point out that these are not my opinions and as my blog states these are opinions that are expressed and shared to be understood.

BEING A “NICE GUY”: FORMULA FOR DISASTER

One of the primary behaviours that an un-brainwashed man exhibits is a focus on achieving tangible goals, with great aggressiveness.

Nothing stands in his way. He isn’t a nice guy.

This doesn’t necessarily mean he is a jerk.

Understanding this concept is a crucial component of the de-brainwashing process and fundamental to the recapturing of your masculinity.

Simply put, women are REPELLED by “nice guys”.

When I say repelled, it MEAN it. I am NOT exaggerating.

It’s kind of a sad fact of life, but it’s ONE HUNDRED PERCENT TRUE.

Women equate “nice-ness” with INFERIORITY.

Women are attracted to masculinity, which embodies strength and power. Being NICE is synonymous with HAVING NO POWER.

When you are nice, you send the message “I have no power” to a woman. Which means, to her, that you are giving all the power away, to her!

A “nice” example of a horrifying self-inflicted wound is when a man tells a woman he hardly knows that he loves her. This is NOT attractive, for she feels she has the power over such a man.

Women cannot feel attraction for men who need them, or for any man who exudes weakness in any form. “Niceness” is basically a kamikaze act, a suicide to your future with her.

Nice guys have another BIG problem: Competition from “Bad Guys”.

“Bad Guys” know a great deal about how to be in this savage, ruthless, and competitive world, which includes the world of women.

I’m not saying women are savage, but because women must carry a baby for nine months, women are FAR MORE RUTHLESS than men in their selection of sexual mates. It boils down to survival and to evolution.

“Bad Guys” often appeal to women on a visceral level that only evolution can logically explain: “Survival of the fittest” = female attraction to tough, ruthless men.

Most men these days, especially “nice guys” don’t know why women seem to only desire “bad guys”.

Nice guys really believe that it is an exception each time they see a woman with a jerk, even if they see it a thousand times.

Nice guys believe that women MUST like nice guys because it seems to make sense that women SHOULD like nice guys.

I really believe that if men knew for a fact that women did NOT like nice guys, then they would stop shooting themselves in the foot each time they met a woman.

Well, it is a fact. Women don’t like nice guys. Women don’t usually like abuse, and I’ll show you how to be successful without being a real jerk, but get this through your head one more time:

Women don’t only “not like” nice guys…

Women are REVOLTED by them.

Let me explain to you a little more why women detest nice guys. Being overly nice is NOT natural. It inhibits and hides your instinctive sexuality and masculinity. The problem is that being nice SEEMS to us to be natural, because we have been SO DAMN BRAINWASHED into it. And it really feels bad at first, knowing that you simply CANNOT be nice to a woman you desire.

It actually feels UNNATURAL at first.

But I assure you, it is good and natural to be more “bad” with women.

Being “nice” makes women feel guilty and inhibited about sharing their “sinful” sexuality with a “nice” asexual guy like you. “Nice” is fake. Masculine is real. Masculine is sexy. Being nice is weak. It ensures you pander to women, in the hope maybe they will give you sex. It is repulsive.

Ironically, “nice guys” wonder as they complain, “I don’t know what happened. I was so NICE to her, I treated her so WELL. I was everything for her. I took her places, I bought her things, I LOVED her. I told her I loved her a thousand times. I never looked at other girls,” etc. Yet it was actually this “niceness” itself that ruined everything!

“Bad Guys” used to be the only ones who knew this. They snickered to themselves as they watched nice guys get shot down by hot women who were bored to death of compliments and ass kissing. These women had no reservations about rejecting the nice guy for a bad guy and having sex with the bad guy on the very first night.

And of course, these women complained about the “jerk” that dumped them for another woman the very next day. And the “jerks” laughed even harder at this, because they knew she wouldn’t change a bit, and that she would fall for another jerk, again and again.

Well, no more.

This post is going to really stick it to the “Bad Guys” by teaching good guys every damn little secret that bad guys already know. And you won’t even have to be a jerk. Think of it as my contribution for world justice.