Male aphrodisiacs and stimulants: know the facts

We’ve all seen them advertised. Here, we uncover the realities behind herbal aphrodisiacs.

Most men know the drill – whether it’s lots of spam emails offering to extend your performance or a poster in the pub toilets promising a guaranteed erection, there is a huge variety of aphrodisiacs and stimulants vying for your attention.

But do they actually work? More importantly, are they even safe? MSN Him takes a closer look at this lucrative industry.

What do these products claim to resolve?
The sultry blonde smouldering on the cover of a pamphlet advertising a sex stimulant reflects the kind of provocative advertising used for male aphrodisiac pills and potions.

“The guys I have on set always use it – as it guarantees they are big, hard and ready” reads the blurb, which promises to turn the onlooker into a rampant sex machine no woman could complain about. Most of us are familiar with these types of sell.

But it’s not just top-shelf magazines that are promoting wares that play on the trademarked name Viagra or use words like Man and Maximus in their titles to suggest virility – it seems it’s not even safe to have a tinkle without being urged to buy a blue pill as a booster.

Do these sexual stimulants work?
There’s a whole host of products on offer in vending machines in pubs, with some claiming they are ‘scientifically tested’ and as safe as can be. So how true are these claims of efficacy and safety?

Dr Petra Boynton, social psychologist at University College London, says the general belief that men should always be ready for sex plays a big part in the marketing of such pills.

“There’s that stereotype that men always want sex and with that comes the pressure that they have to be able to get and keep an erection,” says Boynton. “A lot of the anxieties that men talk about are that they can’t perform in the way they are led to believe they should be doing.”

Why men rarely talk about stimulants and performance-enhancers
It’s fair to say that male performance anxiety is very real and concerning for any sufferer. As a result, we’re often easily embarrassed about sexual issues and are more likely to buy products on the web or through magazine ads, rather than seeking professional help. It can seem like the best way of preserving our dignity and self-esteem. But does that make men more vulnerable to some potentially untried and untested claims?

Dr Boynton believes that such pill promoters are exploiting men’s anxieties and offer little or no proof that they work. Equally worrying are the possible side effects and health issues associated with using such untested drugs.

“A problem for men is that if you are anxious about your performance – either due to erection issues or premature ejaculation – where do you actually go? If you go online, you can easily come across sites that will give you incorrect information, or perhaps try selling dodgy products or at best proven products in an unethical way.”

What are the dangers?
Some companies claim to offer a mixture of substances said to tackle erectile problems or help give men an ‘inflatory’ rise. But Dr Boynton reveals that apart from some well-known ingredients such as ginseng and ginger, l-arginine, magnesium stearate and silicon dioxide (better known as salt) there may also be present unknown stimulants or generic versions of Viagra.

“They can interact with alcohol/recreational drugs and also you don’t really know what you’re taking or the levels. I’ve heard stories of guys buying them off blokes down the pub – literally just purchasing capsules and taking them.

“L-arginine for instance is used in the treatment of hypertension, so if you do have any issues there it wouldn’t be wise to take it without seeing a doc first for a full MOT. Most of these ‘herbal’ products are either placebo at best or at worst contain generic Viagra or similar, so can be very dangerous for people with high blood pressure, diabetes, heart conditions, etc.”

Are these stimulants legal?
Dr James Moffatt, pharmacologist at St George’s, University of London, describes how companies are able to sell these products even when they haven’t been put through rigorous trials.

“They are probably using lots of subtle loopholes. I mean, what’s the difference between a handful of parsley and a handful of parsley that claims to cure erectile dysfunction? They can get away with saying their ingredients are a food and there’s also a lot of caffeine in these pills, which energy drinks also contain. Caffeine makes the user feel the drug is ‘kicking in’ and psychologically believe they are working. But unless these companies break the law, it seems like nobody cares what they do. [It] is basically an unregulated market.”

Embarrassment and exploitation
As guys aren’t generally known for opening up about their love lives and problems associated with sex, both Dr Boynton and Dr Moffatt believe many men will prefer to go online to find a fast remedy and buy products bypassing professional advice.

“The issue of men’s sex problems is seen as a bit of a joke, or they’re not that serious and nobody wants to talk about it,” says Dr Boynton. “So this means we are struggling to collate a firm database on what men are taking and how many adverse reactions there are.”

Dr Moffatt adds that there is certainly the potential for the erectile dysfunction market to be exploited. “If men buy something and it doesn’t work, they just throw it away,” says Dr Moffatt. “They probably won’t complain, let alone sue. Until they are seen to do actual harm, it’s unlikely any action will be taken.”

What this means is that an industry of opportunists trading on men’s fears and anxieties revolving around sexual performance is raking in money. One Australian company was hauled over the coals by UK regulatory body the Advertising Standards Authority in February 2009 for an “offensive” poster. The company argued that only by directly confronting a reluctant audience could they get their message across but the ASA agreed with complainants that the ad had crossed the line. Dr Boynton contributed to a BBC Watchdog programme about the company.

“The company ran a helpline and, as well as calling men ‘losers’ if they didn’t buy their products, they would also tell married guys that their wives would leave them for other men if they couldn’t get an erection. They were totally unethical and put untold pressure on men to buy their pills.”

John Tomlinson, director at the Men‘s Sexual Health Clinic in Winchester, is also aware of the firm, which he claims charged hefty fees for their wares.

“I had one patient who was 20 years old and suffered from premature ejaculation. He paid £600 upfront and what they gave him didn’t work,” he claims. “Eventually after a while he sued them. It’s a big problem for men in the middle-east and Asia who are constantly being exploited by these unscrupulous companies.”

Health dangers
Presently it’s difficult to know just how many men have suffered physical problems due to the anonymity of obtaining such products. “It’s possible that some men might have experienced problems and then not confessed to their doctors that they’ve been taking these pills,” says Dr Moffatt.

“By and large they are biologically harmless, but some of the stuff sold as ‘herbal Viagra’ often contains random amounts of generic Viagra made by someone who isn’t regulated, and that is illegal. Now, this can be dangerous because the taker doesn’t know what the dosage is and could take too much of it. The FDA put a warning out on this a couple of years ago.”

Genuine help and information
“Most men don’t have an actual physical problem – they just think they have a problem,” says Dr Boynton. “It might be that they just desire a stronger erection or are anxious about a new relationship or functioning due to a disappointing experience – so they end up taking clinical medication for a non-medical problem.”

The emphasis being that men should learn that it’s perfectly normal to feel anxious about performing with a new partner and equally – unless there is a consistent issue with getting an erection – most guys shouldn’t worry about it unduly.

“For men who believe they may have a genuine psychological or physical problem their first port of call should be their GP, who can assess the situation clinically and prescribe the right kind of treatment, be it medication (registered and monitored for side effects) or psychological help in the form of therapy that may be available free on the NHS.”

NICE-GUY EQUALS GOOD-BYE – Part 4

I would like to point out that these are not my opinions and as my blog states these are opinions that are expressed and shared to be understood.

For millions of years, nice guys got demolished by bad guys, and often starved to death from losing out to the competition for resources.

That meant that the women who were attracted to nice guys would probably starve as well, and not reproduce as successfully or often. In other words, with time, there eventually were no women left with the trait of feeling attraction for “nice guys”.

It took evolution a million years to fully weed out any women who liked nice guys. The situation has become so dangerous, that it has reached the point where men must embrace the following creed as pure scientific FACT:

WITH WOMEN, NO GOOD DEED GOES UNPUNISHED.

From an evolutionary point of view, the “war of the sexes” has meant nothing less than immortality or annihilation: Reproduction by having sex, hopefully with someone who has awesome (read: sexy) genes is our only chance to survive beyond our own deaths and into eternity.

This means that it only makes sense to find the best sex partner you can, and also to seize any opportunity to gain control in any way possible.

But in women’s minds, there is a specific irony: “If a man is controllable, he probably is a bad genetic catch not worth exploiting for genes!” But if a man is controllable but usable at least for his “nice-ness”, for his favours, money, etc, which he will provide for her (future) children, a woman will exploit these superficial elements that are not as integral to her genetic survival, and yet not feel attraction toward him. (In her brain, it’s hardwired like this: The most important thing she can get from a man is WINNING DNA, in his sperm. If a man is not confident, he seems like he probably has LOSER DNA in his sperm. Therefore, he would create loser children who may not survive and reproduce. Therefore, no attraction toward him.)

Of course, a man who relies on money and “niceness” may not even be the real father of “his” children! This is why it was so important for men to be the ALPHA MALE/the dominant male/the best catch/THE MAN, since otherwise, the chances of raising someone else’s child increased.

If you act like a pathetic man, forget it. You’re history.

When women act pathetic/meek/nice, it isn’t so harmful, because as long as they got pregnant, the child was theirs for sure. But the best assurance a man could get that the child was his own, was to have sex with many women, and/or to simply make himself so desirable that a woman simply would not likely feel attraction to anyone else. He had to make himself a good catch, which meant becoming more courageous, a better hunter, defender, etc. In other words, for sexual value, a man relied on his “masculine” characteristics and LEARNED ABILITIES.

These abilities and character traits are what women needed from men. Whereas a woman’s sexual worth primarily came from her looks, a man’s value came from what he could do. And acting without confidence makes a woman think you can do NOTHING. It is suicide to your success with women. That is why your behaviour is so important. So not only is “nice-ness” the opposite of masculine, not only is it totally unsexy to women, but women will definitely EXPLOIT it even though they feel no sexual attraction to it.

Sucks, huh? But it’s true.

A woman will usually interpret a good deed as a sign of weakness and inferiority. She will lose attraction to you, and see “an opening”, an opportunity, to use you only for your favours. She will slowly wrest all the power away from you. She will try to use you as far as you will allow.

The more you let her push, the more she will feel you are an inferior male, therefore the more attraction she will lose for you. Simultaneously, she will try to use you more and more exclusively for your favours, since those favours are the only use you have to her. Also, there will be no reason left for her to even pretend that she likes you, since you are already giving her everything- and it seems to her like you always will!

Giving a woman “everything” once seemed like a logical way to make her like you, right? I’m glad that now you know it’s a sure-fire way to make sure she feels NOTHING for you but revulsion.

60 Laws in Sex

1.The more beautiful the woman is who loves you, the easier it is to leave her with no hard feelings.

2.Nothing improves with age.

3.No matter how many times you’ve had it, if it’s offered take it, because it’ll never be quite the same again.

4.Sex has no calories.

5.Sex takes up the least amount of time and causes the most amount of trouble.

6.There is no remedy for sex but more sex.

7.Sex appeal is 50% what you’ve got and 50% what people think you’ve got.

8.No sex with anyone in the same office.

9.Sex is like snow; you never know how many inches you are going to get or how long it is going to last.

10.A man in the house is worth two in the street.

11.If you get them by the balls, their hearts and minds will follow.

12.Virginity can be cured.

13.When a man’s wife learns to understand him, she usually stops listening to him.

14.Never sleep with anyone crazier than yourself.

15.The qualities that most attract a woman to a man are usually the same ones she can’t stand years later.

16.Sex is dirty only if it’s done right.

17.It is always the wrong time of month.

18.The best way to hold a man is in your arms.

19.When the lights are out, all women are beautiful.

20.Sex is hereditary. If your parents never had it, chances are you won’t either.

21.Sow your wild oats on Saturday night – Then on Sunday pray for crop failure.

22.The younger the better.

23.The game of love is never called off on account of darkness.

24.It was not the apple on the tree but the pair on the ground that caused the trouble in the garden.

25.Sex discriminates against the shy and the ugly.

26.Before you find your handsome prince, you’ve got to kiss a lot of frogs.

27.There may be some things better than sex, and some things worse than sex. But there is nothing exactly like it.

28.Love your neighbor, but don’t get caught.

29.Love is a hole in the heart.

30.If the effort that went in research on the female bosom had gone into our space program, we would now be running hot-dog stands on the moon.

31.Love is a matter of chemistry, sex is a matter of physics.

32.Do it only with the best.

33.Sex is a three-letter word which needs some old-fashioned four-letter words to convey its full meaning.

34.One good turn gets most of the blankets.

35.You cannot produce a baby in one month by impregnating nine women.

36.Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.

37.It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

38.Thou shalt not commit adultery…..unless in the mood.

39.Never lie down with a woman who’s got more troubles than you.

40.Abstain from wine, women, and song; mostly song.

41.Never argue with a women when she’s tired — or rested.

42.A woman never forgets the men she could have had; a man, the women he couldn’t.

43.What matters is not the length of the wand, but the magic in the stick.

44.It is better to be looked over than overlooked.

45.Never say no.

46.A man can be happy with any woman as long as he doesn’t love her.

47.Folks playing leapfrog must complete all jumps.

48.Beauty is skin deep; ugly goes right to the bone.

49.Never stand between a fire hydrant and a dog.

50.A man is only a man, but a good bicycle is a ride.

51.Love comes in spurts.

52.The world does not revolve on an axis.

53.Sex is one of the nine reasons for reincarnation; the other eight are unimportant.

54.Smile, it makes people wonder what you are thinking.

55.Don’t do it if you can’t keep it up.

56.There is no difference between a wise man and a fool when they fall in love.

57.Never go to bed mad, stay up and fight.

58.Love is the delusion that one woman differs from another.

59.”This won’t hurt, I promise.”

60.Never reject a women in bed when she is showing you a lot of affection.