I would like to point out that these are not my opinions and as my blog states these are opinions that are expressed and shared to be understood.
There is another disaster that occurs from being a “nice guy”. Specifically, from being a nice guy that BUYS woman things. Here’s what happens when you buy a woman things:
STAGE ONE: A woman will start to treat you like crap.
STAGE TWO: She will demand that you buy her more and more things.
STAGE THREE: She’ll secretly search for a man who turns her on.
This does not make women “evil”. Let me state some facts before I explain my theory of why this happens:
1. Women have depended on men for a million years for food/shelter.
2. These days, money is that link to food and shelter.
3. Of course, women have also always needed men for sperm.
However, throughout all this time, a woman could go to one man for food and shelter, (and grudgingly accept his sperm), and secretly go to another man especially for what she has been genetically programmed to “know” is his superior-gene-carrying sperm.
In other words, a woman could use one man for providing, and secretly have sex with another man she “knows” will give her superior children. (And sometimes, even more rarely, women use more than one man for each purpose. In general though, women do not desire as many partners as men desire.)
Here are the two clinchers:
There is evidence to show that when women have orgasms, they retain more of the sperm inside of them. It is also a fact that most of a male’s sperm is designed not to impregnate, but to destroy other men’s sperm that may be inside a woman.
If women were so faithful, men would never have evolved to the point that their own sperm has become very much a weapon of self-defence used to counter-strike women’s evolved strategies of “cheating”.
Think about it: If a woman mates with a man that she is using just for food and shelter, and if she is not sexually attracted to him, she would not as likely orgasm. Thus, she’d not as likely retain his sperm. She could then secretly have sex with another man she is attracted to, be more likely to orgasm then, and retain this other man’s sperm. This would increase her chances of having his child.
Research indicates that women are actually most likely to cheat at the very time they are most fertile… Evolution’s way of creating superior children, though it often screws up. By the way, I’m not saying that all women cheat, and I’m not stating that women purposely cheat at the time they are most fertile. These processes are not conscious.
Attraction is based on basic on cues of genetic health and superiority, although these cues sometimes are not accurate indications. A person could easily be attracted to someone and have a child, only to find out later that the father/mother is genetically diseased.
Nonetheless, this is what is built into us as instinct.
So, if you start buying things for a woman, especially if you do it right away, you activate a very powerful instinct in her that blares “Not sexy, but worth using.” This happens to her on a subconscious level, which seems subtle, but is actually devastatingly powerful in its effect.
Better to NEVER buy woman things, so at least if she is not interested in you, she will not pretend to be interested in you. You will know where you stand. But if you buy her things, she may pretend to be interested, as she tries to use you for money, since the idea of using men as providers is pretty ingrained.
Don’t you want a woman to desire you in a sexual sense? Then
DON’T make her think you are a provider. Make it clear that ALL you offer is YOU, which is the ULTIMATE pleasure.
Now, I’m not saying all women are bad. And I’m not saying that after going out for a few months, you can’t do something nice or romantic. At that point, it will be clearer that you are not doing these things to win her desire.
I’m just saying how evolution seems to have worked, and that therefore you should use this information to make sure you DON’T trigger the wrong instinct in women. If you want to find out more about this, read
“Sperm Wars”, by Robin Baker, Ph.D.
THE MAN is the ultimate reward for a woman.
He gives her nothing else.