It is critical to realise that women are human beings and not made from sugar and spice. They are just as competitive, manipulative, conniving, game playing, merciless, and ruthless, in their quest to get the man of their choice. Once they “get” their man, they will try to control him.
The irony, of course, is that women detest men that can be controlled by women. However, women WILL try to control you. Sometimes, women are only trying to CONTROL you as a TEST: To see if you are THE MAN.
If you permit them to control you, you FAIL the test.
The desire for control, for both sexes, stems from the massive stakes involved, but it’s far more devastating for a man to submit to control. It destroys his sexual attractiveness.
For a man, it’s always self-destructive for him to submit to any control whatsoever, no matter what the woman’s reason is for attempting to control him. And no matter what, a man ALWAYS ends up coming out more attractive by not submitting.
Since women are not “nice” and since they will attempt to control you with ingenious tactics, it is imperative you keep your guard up and not let any power or control slip through your fingers.
One of the most tragic mistakes a man can make is to let a woman know that something she did actually bothered him at all.
You MUST understand that there is just too much at stake for both men and women to play nicely “by the rules”.
If you let a woman know that something she did hurt you, she will simply use that knowledge AGAINST you, to CONTROL you.
She will try to see how far you will go, in terms of kissing her ass, to try to prevent her from doing it again. And most guys resort to this pathetic bribery. It’s as if these guys are saying, “I’m kissing your ass so you will like me enough to not do that mean thing again.”
An example of this phenomenon is when a man tells a woman that it bothers him when she talks rudely to him. Then, not only does he now seem needy, which is unsexy, but also, she can then use extortion in subtle ways. For example, she might hint that you should do this, that, and whatever else for her or she might do the hurtful thing again.
She may use psychological warfare, and act kind of distant, to see how scared you are of her repeating this behaviour, and what you will do for her to prevent it.
You must not accept ANY crap from any woman, EVER.
As soon as she acts up, you must show how calm you are as you deliver the punishment, the figurative SPANK.
This way, she will sense that it is HER problem, not yours, for acting up.
She will know that you can easily get another, better woman than her.
Of course, if she did anything serious, then dump her and forget about her immediately. ZERO second chances for any real serious shit.
NEVER explain to a woman that she should treat you right.
If she doesn’t know that, DUMP her. She is not worth keeping if she does not treat you right. Tell her not to come back until she shapes up.
And she will usually come running back to you when you throw her to the curb for misbehaving.
It’s called you having self-respect.
And if women sense that NOTHING bothers you, then there is NOTHING they can use against you. And, after testing you to see if you can be hurt or not, and seeing that you indeed cannot, they will usually kiss your feet.
If a woman does not show an immediate massive change, kick her out.
Does that sound like a mean, bitter statement about women?
It’s not. It’s the prescription for reality. 99.999999999 per cent of the time.
You might be tempted after a few good weeks with a woman to think that if she does something out of line, then you could just tell her that what she did hurt. After all, “She loves me, so she wouldn’t want to hurt me again”.
If you show her she hurt you, she’ll keep it in her arsenal.
And she will use it again.
Think about it like this: 99.99 per cent of the time, if somebody is being a prick, they know it.
Women know if they are doing something wrong to you.
And if they really don’t know, it’s probably something trivial and not worth you mentioning to her anyway!
So if you DO indicate something hurt you, she will just know how to activate your “hurt button” in the future.
So here’s my recommendation:
Don’t let her know that ANYTHING bothers you.
Always, calmly tell her she misbehaved by doing the specific thing she did. Tell her you won’t tolerate it.
But don’t let her feel it actually bothered you.
NEVER argue with her about it. It will NOT HELP, only make things worse. I guarantee it.
Now of course, if you have been with a woman who has been great to you for years, and once in a while she acts up a bit, well that’s perfectly normal you probably aren’t perfect either. You’ve both earned a bit of slack.
There is a BUT, though.
But heed this warning:
Women will sense a guy that they can get to kiss their ass, and will take FULL ADVANTAGE OF HIM till he is barely even a rug to walk over.
And women will deny this till the end of time, even coming up with brilliant “excuses” for their bad behaviour.
Now that you know this, it’s time to stop taking any crap from any woman. You are responsible from now on if you put up with anything that doesn’t feel right.
Think about that the next time you’re about to be “Mr Nice Guy” with any woman. Women understand, relate to, and demand mental toughness more than you realise.
(Notice I used the word mental toughness. Don’t EVER get
PHYSICALLY VIOLENT or even upset with any woman, I’ll explain later why this is so important to your success, and goes way beyond just the law.)
Don’t be Mr Nice Guy. And don’t be Mr Angry. Neither one is cool.
So you know now not to be a nice guy. How exactly should you be?
Pound this short answer into your head: Be “THE MAN”. In the macho, cliché sense.
Oh, I really hope that doesn’t hurt you or insult you.
It shouldn’t, because if you haven’t been THE MAN, it’s not your fault.
For a long time, I didn’t think like THE MAN. It isn’t easy in our inane, politically correct culture.
A lot of guys don’t believe me when I say that being THE MAN, inside, mentally, and even more important, emotionally, is THE VITAL KEY to sparking and sustaining a woman’s desire. These guys think that their looks and money are more important.