New Years Resolution 2013


After giving it a lot of thought I have decided that in 2013 I will not open up to just any girl or even be nice like I usually have been. The reason why I have decided to do this is because being nice or opening up to anyone has made me feel worse. Many of the girls in Newcastle are either selfish or just don’t want to know you and let’s be honest being brown, Pakistani and a Muslim don’t help among white people. Yes they may love the colour brown, get a tan and eat our lovely food which they have no clue how to cook but inside they don’t like us.

One of the reasons which many Asians/Muslims would agree upon is that they don’t take any time out of their lives to try and understand our culture or traditions. Majority of white people assume we do what they do which isn’t true. On Twitter a few weeks back I asked some British (Caucasian) people if they knew what Eid was and it wasn’t a surprise for me to find out they didn’t. They only know about their calendar events and haven’t bothered to learn from any of their friends what their culture is. It is very frustrating and annoying that we spend time trying to find out about their culture and traditions with an open mind while they have a narrow mind and assume what the media tells them.

Let me get back to what I was saying at the beginning. I have always respected girls/women but that clearly isn’t a good thing because many seem to only enjoy the company of men who don’t respect them or have no consideration for their feelings. Basically a caveman is what they are after who can be an alpha male and have many women on the side.

Personally I don’t think girls deserve my attention anymore, especially those who I’ve invested my time in for long periods in Newcastle and seen no return out of. By return I mean a “let’s meet for..dinner/shopping/coffee etc”.

In 2013 I plan to not get emotionally involved with anyone and just keep it to a simple conversation whether it’s in person or on a social network. I feel hurt and don’t think I can trust people anytime soon. Someone would have to really care about me and be there for me if they want me to open up to them or even invest my time in them.

Enjoy New Year!
Naveed

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Homemade Pakistani Food


All the food in the photos below was cooked by Mum in the space of 1 day. Much of the ingredients were from the garden and the food was delicious because of using fresh produce. Other people in Newcastle (Pakistani Women/Girl) can’t cook this way because they don’t want to put any effort into it and just use ingredients from boxes or tins which don’t have any real taste, reason why much of the food tastes alike and bland.

I can honestly say that there are not many people who can cook like this because some Pakistani girls won’t try to learn it themselves or from their parents, dislike Pakistani girls especially who can’t cook. Reason why I dislike them is because Pakistani people have a lot of pride and cooking good food is very important to them just like the Italians. For God sake even my Dad can cook more dishes than many of the Pakistani girls that I know in Newcastle.

May be one reason I’m better off marrying a girl who is from Pakistan and knows how to cook good Pakistani food.

1. Dal Lentil Dish with Fresh Coriander from the garden:

Dal Lentil Dish

2. Sweet Rice:

Sweet Rice

3. Lamb Pilau Rice:

Lamb Pilau Rice

4. Can You Cook This? This Is how you cook a Chicken Korma and not that bland crap you get from takeaways and retail store outlets:

Chicken Korma inc Fresh Coriander

5. Kheer Desert made Fresh at Home:

Kheer Desert with grinded Almonds & Pistachio sprinkled on top

6. Mixed Salad:

Mixed Salad

7. Chickpea Yoghurt (Homemade Yoghurt) with fresh Chutney made by my Dad with Fresh Ingredients. Chutney Mix which was made separate to this included red & green chillies, mint from garden (has great smell) and other ingredients:

Chickpea Yoghurt

Should I Create a Blog Post on Muslim (Asian) Culture?


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I would really like to create a blog post and video about the difficulties that young people as myself have to face in the Asian culturue and community. For example girls in some families never have the freedom in the UK to study a degree in whatever they like. Many are forced into studying a PHD or Law degree just so the parents can score points in the Asian community and show off with pride.

People like myself have to sacrifice our own dreams and desires to give that pride and respect to our parents for the communities sake. Most would say “we don’t care” and will do whatever they want, for example marry whichever girl they want or live their life how they want to. However some people like me love their parents a lot and can not go to sleep if we have hurt our parents. If you love your parents then you feel their pain and its the same in any relationship, sharing pain and happiness is love.

I would want to go into more detail of what it has been like for the British Pakistani generation. I can tell people that these things happen in other Asian countries but they still happen in the UK and there is no one to help us because no one has yet tried to understand what we have to face. For example if a boy/girl were to do what they wanted regarding education, job, relationship/marriage then we be emotionally blackmailed to change our minds or be disowned from the family and community.

Many people consider all these problems to be related to our religion Islam but it isn’t. Majority of people take advantage of the religion when it suits their needs and cause harm to others. Majority of Muslims in the UK try to find love before their parents decide to get them married to someone who they have never seen or have the same level of understanding. British people I know who are or were my friends could never understand this because it is very easy for them. These people just party and move in with whoever they want and date/sleep with anyone they like without being questioned. For us Muslims its a sin to do all that and that is fair enough but even in our religion it is stated that a couple must be happy with the marriage otherwise it is not recognised by Allah (God).

There are many sacrifices I have had to make and I am sure there are many other Muslims who have had to do the same in this modern world. Muslims who do have freedom actually go over the limit and do things that they shouldn’t just for sake of acceptence in the British community. Many of these Muslims actually forget that we were once hated and kept as slaves and that their own ancestors suffered pain for them. And what do these Pakistani’s or Muslims do to thank them or remember them? Nope they don’t pray for them so they get reward in heaven. They instead be players/sluts and be very western with how they look and forget their culture, traditions and religion. Some can’t even cook the traditional way and have to go out and eat, unhealthy in many cases because food cooked at home can have fresh ingrediants and be cooked the traditional Asian way.

Most of the British people I knew always told me to do what I want and not bother with what my parents say. Now those people might not want to make their parents happy but I was not going to be someoen who hurt his parents. Now I have always believed that your children will treat you exactly the same as you treated your own parents. I would not want to be disrespected or be hurt by my children. There is a saying “Parents always do what’s best for their children” and I know whatever my parents do for me will be for the best..even if it means getting married to someone they say.

In the Muslim community we do not abandon our parents in their old age and put them in a home. Most British people do this because they can’t be bothered to take care of their parents in their old age and see it as a burden. In our religion it is rewarding to take care of their parents in their old age because they are the two gates to heaven and we are not going to put them in a home where they don’t have their family around them. Many British I have seen just leave home at the age of 18 and start partying, sleeping around and doing whatever they want. They never consider taking care of their parents and staying home. If you can do that to your parents then your children will also leave you alone. This is not a good thing because I always want to be there for my parents so I can look after them when they are old and maybe ill. I don’t want some strangers looking after my parents with no love for them and only seeing it as a job.

I do wish that in the Muslim community we were free to fall in love and marry that person. I can understand why that is not accepted because the word LOVE is just a word in this modern world. No guy or women can stick to the term LOVE and be loyal to his/her partner. Even Muslims guys and girls are behaving that way just  to acheive fun in life. Falling in Love is the best thing but many Asian girls or guys will not stick with that person and tell their parents they want to marry them. Those Asian girls and guys will instead just mess around with other people every few weeks, months and years. So maybe our parents are right to not give us the freedom of love and actually help us have a better life by getting us married to someone from back home who is faithful, loyal and will love you for life.

There is one advice that I would like to give which I have always followed:
There are two directions in life, the right and the wrong. If you take the wrong path you will find it easy at first and find success and happiness but it won’t last long and you will feel empty and alone in life. If you take the right path you will have to face a lot of difficulties in the beginning and be hurt a lot. But you will be successful and happy for a long..long time.

I have always taken the right path and I’m still facing difficulties and been hurt a lot..but I will be very happy soon because I will be more stronger as a person and not be one to give up and cheat in life.

I don’t know if people would like a blog post in more detail but I really do feel like as if I need to make people aware of what goes on in the Asian (Pakistani, Bengail and etc) community.

Asian Culture & University


Sunday 30th January 2011

After a good night of thinking things over about my life and the people around me I have chosen to go back to my roots. My grandmother was someone very special who survived the British Empire and Massacre of the India and Pakistan Partition. I obviously would not be here if my grandmother had not been healthy and survived all them Wars back in the early 19th century. She always said our culture was different and that we should use the herbal remedies and other herbal products because they were natural and good for any human being, grandmother knew best as she lived a hard life and used natural ingrediants for food and personal use.

I have decided to follow that lifestyle as after much thought I’m just another stranger in this country even though I was born here and I’m a British Citizen because of it. Being a British Citizen still is no benefit as I’m still someone who has tried all his life to fit into society in the UK but I feel I’m always going to be seen as someone who’s a different colour with a different culture and most of all a Muslim. Reasons why I’ve embraced my culture again and my religion as it gave me spiritual peace and future insight. Meditating is a great thing and I want that back as I don’t believe following what others do just to be liked or be their friend has helped, following and changing for different groups of people has made me forget who I am.

Back to University on Monday 31st January 2011 and preparing my books and notes to take with me tomorrow. I have promised myself that I will say ‘No’ more often as I say ‘Yes’ too often and be a fool. I will just have to work hard and keep quiet as I should have and remember to focus on my university dissertation. Need to keep things to myself more often and be willing to say ‘No’ to others. I was dedicated to my university work before but I will be working even harder now and only focusing on achieving spiritual peace morever meditating. Will certainly not leave my culture and beliefs just to fit in with others furthermore if they can’t accept who I am without me doing what they do then I am happy alone as I got Allah (God) and that is enough.

Reading Quran and Praying always helps me find inner peace and make me happy.

I can say for sure at the end of this post I may be alone but I got my culture and religion. We have come alone to this world and will die alone so no one can say they will take their friends or boyfriend/girlfriend with them, good deeds in this world and praying to show appreciation for what you have everyday to Allah (God) is what will help you after this life.

Naveed Ahmed