You Can’t Have Everything In Life


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I am a very lucky individual who has found a wife who loves me unconditionally. I have all her love no matter how much wealth or status I may or may not have. During my life on this planet I have learnt sometimes you have to sacrifice certain aspects in life to achieve something wonderful that makes you happy.

I don’t regret it but I had to sacrifice my lifelong ambitions and dreams of a career. I would give it up 100 times again for my wife’s love. If I had chased my dreams then I would have been too late and lost her to some other guy. I’d rather prefer a life of happiness full of someone’s love for you compared to being successful in your career but never finding unconditional love.

She loves me so much that it is amazing. Both of us have an excellent understanding of one another and can always compromise. Why would I want anything else when I am already the wealthiest man by having her love. That is all I need in life.

I understand there are many in this world who want more and this isn’t enough for them. I used to be one of them once. Then you realise even with the money in your bank and high class status you can feel quiet lonely if someone doesn’t love you for who you are. Many usually tend to use someone these days for their personal gain.

“Love” was a word that didn’t exist for me once because I thought I’d never be one of the fortunate ones who receive someone’s love no matter who and how I am.

Hopefully anyone who reads this can understand that your dreams are important but not if it means ending up unhappy and getting married on some compromise where there isn’t any true love. Money may be all around you but giving someone your heart is something you can’t put a price on. When you are loved by someone you feel completed and able to do anything for them.

I guess good guys finish last but with lots of love and happiness. All the waiting is worth it when you don’t follow other peoples lead and just have a string of unsuccessful relationships. Waiting will get you a partner that has the attitude you love. Several people force themselves to be blind and like someone’s personality that they shouldn’t and then end up hurt.

If you enjoy my posts then just like this and I will continue writing about my life on a regular basis. Of course not all private matters.

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New Years Resolution 2013


After giving it a lot of thought I have decided that in 2013 I will not open up to just any girl or even be nice like I usually have been. The reason why I have decided to do this is because being nice or opening up to anyone has made me feel worse. Many of the girls in Newcastle are either selfish or just don’t want to know you and let’s be honest being brown, Pakistani and a Muslim don’t help among white people. Yes they may love the colour brown, get a tan and eat our lovely food which they have no clue how to cook but inside they don’t like us.

One of the reasons which many Asians/Muslims would agree upon is that they don’t take any time out of their lives to try and understand our culture or traditions. Majority of white people assume we do what they do which isn’t true. On Twitter a few weeks back I asked some British (Caucasian) people if they knew what Eid was and it wasn’t a surprise for me to find out they didn’t. They only know about their calendar events and haven’t bothered to learn from any of their friends what their culture is. It is very frustrating and annoying that we spend time trying to find out about their culture and traditions with an open mind while they have a narrow mind and assume what the media tells them.

Let me get back to what I was saying at the beginning. I have always respected girls/women but that clearly isn’t a good thing because many seem to only enjoy the company of men who don’t respect them or have no consideration for their feelings. Basically a caveman is what they are after who can be an alpha male and have many women on the side.

Personally I don’t think girls deserve my attention anymore, especially those who I’ve invested my time in for long periods in Newcastle and seen no return out of. By return I mean a “let’s meet for..dinner/shopping/coffee etc”.

In 2013 I plan to not get emotionally involved with anyone and just keep it to a simple conversation whether it’s in person or on a social network. I feel hurt and don’t think I can trust people anytime soon. Someone would have to really care about me and be there for me if they want me to open up to them or even invest my time in them.

Enjoy New Year!
Naveed

Hard Life


I’ve always had to work hard myself to achieve any goals that I set for myself. They were never easy like it is for some, things always went  bad for me and I had to do stuff the hard way.

Long story but I’m kind of unlucky. But it has made me a strong person and I love to be faced with a challenge now because I feel very satisfied when I work hard and achieve anything.

There are many challenges I face at the moment involving family health problems, personal issues and other unlucky challenges I keep facing. I can never get what I want the easy way like some may be able to. I have to go through a lot before I finally achieve any goals.

I am really happy with the person I am today because having to work hard and not have it handed to me has made me mentally strong, confident, ambitious, enthusiastic and helpful. I feel great satisfaction from helping others who might have issues because I can connect with others and show compassion.

I don’t like to go on about myself so I will talk about something else now.

I believe this World we live in can be much better if we could be patient and not let ourselves become angry over small issues. Everyone has to face some sort of challenge in life to get what they want and there are some who can’t and resort to making others feel bad or taking it from them.

There is still some discrimination in this World and it is not perfect. I never felt any of that in University because of everyone being from different backgrounds. Together we are able to be effective by using the knowledge and advantages from our cultures. Individually we have some weaknesses and that does not help. As I said working together with different people helps us become better.

Most important point I wanted to make is that living in Newcastle for many years I have always felt that my family and myself have never felt accepted by our own kind (Pakistani Community). I don’t know if this is because of wealth, status or what. I hate the fact that many girls who have well off parents consider themselves to be better than others and be stuck up when talking to anyone who isn’t. They forget that at one time their ancestors were living in Pakistan and maybe not well-off. A person should not be like that to others because your fortune in life can change in a second.

I don’t like these divisions we have in our own culture/community. It causes issues between people and makes someone who is less unfortunate for a period to accept the challenge and work hard to show them they are not low class people. This actually is good in some ways because hunger to be someone drives you very hard to achieve your goals. To people like me and others who have that drive actually are put in a situation where they believe anything is possible. Just think of the Rocky movies that show someone who is unfortunate and because of the situation he is in he just has to achieve his goals. The hunger and drive of a person can help achieve anything. When someone is not in a bad situation and is surrounded by a family with no issues they may not feel the urge to achieve that success.

I am not saying people who have a healthy family environment or financial stability do not achieve anything. I am stating that if you are in a family environment where people are depending on your success and drive to bring stability then you will face the impossible to make it possible. We are natural survivors and the situations we are born into or put into can not be helped because we don’t decide the environment. So anyone who looks down upon another or can not even communicate with their own kind (humans, pakistani, british etc) is not a good person at all.

I have experienced it many times when Pakistani girls judge you straight away and don’t communicate in any friendly or human manner. They will see you as some burden if you can not help them gain anything in life, for example many I’ve realised in Newcastle are looking for the rich guy who they can marry and leech off from. At University many of my friends were from different backgrounds but none of the girls were from my own background (Pakistani). Why? Well because they chose very carefully who they wanted to talk to and usually it was the guys who had the expensive car and wealthy family. These kind of differences would hurt me a lot and make me feel as if I had to prove something.

In the end I didn’t bother with them because I would not waste my time on people who are so materialistic and full of pride with no rock solid foundations of life. I just dislike Pakistani girls in Newcastle because they are the most stubborn and stuck-up. You would say “Hi” in person, Facebook or Twitter and you would get this look or reaction as if you’re a piece of garbage. I would rather marry a Pakistani girl from Pakistan any day of the week instead of any Pakistani girl in the UK. They have no consideration for religion, culture or tradition. All they see is how wealthy a guy is and if they can marry him and not have to live any kind of hard life. They want a life full of leisure and no hard work like our Pakistani ancestors had. I would not want a person in my life who raised my/her children to have things handed to them on a plate.

Amazing Dream


Writing my dream right now while it’s fresh!

I dreamed of this big beautiful house with marble floors and a nice garden. I can’t explain it but every room was as beautiful as the one before. Now either this was my brain trying to better itself in the new room or just my imagination.

The most important aspect of the dream was a beautiful women with black hair. She looked gorgeous. Now as a Pisces I can understand why I have these dreams because we like to disconnect from reality and live in our world. However I don’t think this was the case because this dream was clearly trying motivate me and “re-start my engine” to achieve the best. That would explain the dream.

Now I would not mind what I saw in the dream because that is every guys fantasy to have a mansion and a beautiful women by his side. Maybe one day that might happen but I am down to Earth and believe happiness does not always be in money and beauty.

I’ve always had ambitions that have been crazy and hard to reach but I have never given up. Fair enough my body or any other obstacle might slow my progress down but my heart and mind are always determined. I hope I can achieve many things because I have so much to give with my potential. Everything happens for a reason and I can’t fight fate at times. Don’t mean I do nothing though.

But this is basically a dream journal!