Hard Life


I’ve always had to work hard myself to achieve any goals that I set for myself. They were never easy like it is for some, things always went bad for me and I had to do stuff the hard way.

Long story but I’m kind of unlucky. But it has made me a strong person and I love to be faced with a challenge now because I feel very satisfied when I work hard and achieve anything.

There are many challenges I face at the moment involving family health problems, personal issues and other unlucky challenges I keep facing. I can never get what I want the easy way like some may be able to. I have to go through a lot before I finally achieve any goals.

I am really happy with the person I am today because having to work hard and not have it handed to me has made me mentally strong, confident, ambitious, enthusiastic and helpful. I feel great satisfaction from helping others who might have issues because I can connect with others and show compassion.

I don’t like to go on about myself so I will talk about something else now.

I believe this World we live in can be much better if we could be patient and not let ourselves become angry over small issues. Everyone has to face some sort of challenge in life to get what they want and there are some who can’t and resort to making others feel bad or taking it from them.

There is still some discrimination in this World and it is not perfect. I never felt any of that in University because of everyone being from different backgrounds. Together we are able to be effective by using the knowledge and advantages from our cultures. Individually we have some weaknesses and that does not help. As I said working together with different people helps us become better.

Most important point I wanted to make is that living in Newcastle for many years I have always felt that my family and myself have never felt accepted by our own kind (Pakistani Community). I don’t know if this is because of wealth, status or what. I hate the fact that many girls who have well off parents consider themselves to be better than others and be stuck up when talking to anyone who isn’t. They forget that at one time their ancestors were living in Pakistan and maybe not well-off. A person should not be like that to others because your fortune in life can change in a second.

I don’t like these divisions we have in our own culture/community. It causes issues between people and makes someone who is less unfortunate for a period to accept the challenge and work hard to show them they are not low class people. This actually is good in some ways because hunger to be someone drives you very hard to achieve your goals. To people like me and others who have that drive actually are put in a situation where they believe anything is possible. Just think of the Rocky movies that show someone who is unfortunate and because of the situation he is in he just has to achieve his goals. The hunger and drive of a person can help achieve anything. When someone is not in a bad situation and is surrounded by a family with no issues they may not feel the urge to achieve that success.

I am not saying people who have a healthy family environment or financial stability do not achieve anything. I am stating that if you are in a family environment where people are depending on your success and drive to bring stability then you will face the impossible to make it possible. We are natural survivors and the situations we are born into or put into can not be helped because we don’t decide the environment. So anyone who looks down upon another or can not even communicate with their own kind (humans, pakistani, british etc) is not a good person at all.

I have experienced it many times when Pakistani girls judge you straight away and don’t communicate in any friendly or human manner. They will see you as some burden if you can not help them gain anything in life, for example many I’ve realised in Newcastle are looking for the rich guy who they can marry and leech off from. At University many of my friends were from different backgrounds but none of the girls were from my own background (Pakistani). Why? Well because they chose very carefully who they wanted to talk to and usually it was the guys who had the expensive car and wealthy family. These kind of differences would hurt me a lot and make me feel as if I had to prove something.

In the end I didn’t bother with them because I would not waste my time on people who are so materialistic and full of pride with no rock solid foundations of life. I just dislike Pakistani girls in Newcastle because they are the most stubborn and stuck-up. You would say “Hi” in person, Facebook or Twitter and you would get this look or reaction as if you’re a piece of garbage. I would rather marry a Pakistani girl from Pakistan any day of the week instead of any Pakistani girl in the UK. They have no consideration for religion, culture or tradition. All they see is how wealthy a guy is and if they can marry him and not have to live any kind of hard life. They want a life full of leisure and no hard work like our Pakistani ancestors had. I would not want a person in my life who raised my/her children to have things handed to them on a plate.

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Homemade Pakistani Food


All the food in the photos below was cooked by Mum in the space of 1 day. Much of the ingredients were from the garden and the food was delicious because of using fresh produce. Other people in Newcastle (Pakistani Women/Girl) can’t cook this way because they don’t want to put any effort into it and just use ingredients from boxes or tins which don’t have any real taste, reason why much of the food tastes alike and bland.

I can honestly say that there are not many people who can cook like this because some Pakistani girls won’t try to learn it themselves or from their parents, dislike Pakistani girls especially who can’t cook. Reason why I dislike them is because Pakistani people have a lot of pride and cooking good food is very important to them just like the Italians. For God sake even my Dad can cook more dishes than many of the Pakistani girls that I know in Newcastle.

May be one reason I’m better off marrying a girl who is from Pakistan and knows how to cook good Pakistani food.

1. Dal Lentil Dish with Fresh Coriander from the garden:

Dal Lentil Dish

2. Sweet Rice:

Sweet Rice

3. Lamb Pilau Rice:

Lamb Pilau Rice

4. Can You Cook This? This Is how you cook a Chicken Korma and not that bland crap you get from takeaways and retail store outlets:

Chicken Korma inc Fresh Coriander

5. Kheer Desert made Fresh at Home:

Kheer Desert with grinded Almonds & Pistachio sprinkled on top

6. Mixed Salad:

Mixed Salad

7. Chickpea Yoghurt (Homemade Yoghurt) with fresh Chutney made by my Dad with Fresh Ingredients. Chutney Mix which was made separate to this included red & green chillies, mint from garden (has great smell) and other ingredients:

Chickpea Yoghurt

It’s 2012 and I Still Get Called A Paki


The above screenshot is from today (16/07/2012). They thought it was appropriate to call me a Paki because I tweeted them “unfollowing you back” for unfollowing my twitter account. Any other tweet could have been sent but there was no need to bring someone’s race into this. How dare people like this are still allowed to get away with something like this. I don’t go out being racist to people who are not the same colour as me. Somehow in the past and present the ‘white‘ have always thought of themselves superior and made us feel degraded just because of their colour.

I was such a fool to believe things had changed with time but I realise this year that nothing has changed. People with a different colour to the ‘white’ who live in the UK are still made to feel negative for who they are and how they look. Newcastle Upon Tyne is such a diverse place with many different coloured people with different cultures & religions living together. But there some who just like to express their hatred towards someone who has a different skin colour to ‘whiteeven though they get a tan because they hate their own natural skin colour.

Why are we defined by our colour when we are still all human?

I think this is a major weakness we have if we define one another by colour if not anything else like religion and etc. We are still not seen as human beings with feelings even after what people who are not ‘white‘ have been through for 100s of years. For example slavery, direct and indirect racism, violence and much more we have suffered. Many now say they have clean hands now and have a open mind but you can’t erase the past or the present.

To those readers who feel offended with the ‘clean hands‘ remark..I have a question.

Can you forget or erase what happened to you while being targeted as a group in the past?

Let’s Invade a Country


Proud To Be A Muslim

Maybe non-Muslims should have stayed out of muslim countries if they never understood our religion. Would USA attack aliens on a planet who cause no threat just because they do not understand their life. Muslims or China never interferes with Countries in the West and they dnt invade countries if they are low in resources! T.E Lawrence told the West that a guest in your house is only welcome for a few days, after a while you want them gone. He also told us that invading other countries does not benefit either side and that you have to understand someone’s culture and religion. #TELawrence clearly did because he was among Muslims. Some people like in Universities in England do not try to understand Muslims even though we interact with them on daily basis.

Asian Culture & University


Sunday 30th January 2011

After a good night of thinking things over about my life and the people around me I have chosen to go back to my roots. My grandmother was someone very special who survived the British Empire and Massacre of the India and Pakistan Partition. I obviously would not be here if my grandmother had not been healthy and survived all them Wars back in the early 19th century. She always said our culture was different and that we should use the herbal remedies and other herbal products because they were natural and good for any human being, grandmother knew best as she lived a hard life and used natural ingrediants for food and personal use.

I have decided to follow that lifestyle as after much thought I’m just another stranger in this country even though I was born here and I’m a British Citizen because of it. Being a British Citizen still is no benefit as I’m still someone who has tried all his life to fit into society in the UK but I feel I’m always going to be seen as someone who’s a different colour with a different culture and most of all a Muslim. Reasons why I’ve embraced my culture again and my religion as it gave me spiritual peace and future insight. Meditating is a great thing and I want that back as I don’t believe following what others do just to be liked or be their friend has helped, following and changing for different groups of people has made me forget who I am.

Back to University on Monday 31st January 2011 and preparing my books and notes to take with me tomorrow. I have promised myself that I will say ‘No’ more often as I say ‘Yes’ too often and be a fool. I will just have to work hard and keep quiet as I should have and remember to focus on my university dissertation. Need to keep things to myself more often and be willing to say ‘No’ to others. I was dedicated to my university work before but I will be working even harder now and only focusing on achieving spiritual peace morever meditating. Will certainly not leave my culture and beliefs just to fit in with others furthermore if they can’t accept who I am without me doing what they do then I am happy alone as I got Allah (God) and that is enough.

Reading Quran and Praying always helps me find inner peace and make me happy.

I can say for sure at the end of this post I may be alone but I got my culture and religion. We have come alone to this world and will die alone so no one can say they will take their friends or boyfriend/girlfriend with them, good deeds in this world and praying to show appreciation for what you have everyday to Allah (God) is what will help you after this life.

Naveed Ahmed