New Years Resolution 2013


After giving it a lot of thought I have decided that in 2013 I will not open up to just any girl or even be nice like I usually have been. The reason why I have decided to do this is because being nice or opening up to anyone has made me feel worse. Many of the girls in Newcastle are either selfish or just don’t want to know you and let’s be honest being brown, Pakistani and a Muslim don’t help among white people. Yes they may love the colour brown, get a tan and eat our lovely food which they have no clue how to cook but inside they don’t like us.

One of the reasons which many Asians/Muslims would agree upon is that they don’t take any time out of their lives to try and understand our culture or traditions. Majority of white people assume we do what they do which isn’t true. On Twitter a few weeks back I asked some British (Caucasian) people if they knew what Eid was and it wasn’t a surprise for me to find out they didn’t. They only know about their calendar events and haven’t bothered to learn from any of their friends what their culture is. It is very frustrating and annoying that we spend time trying to find out about their culture and traditions with an open mind while they have a narrow mind and assume what the media tells them.

Let me get back to what I was saying at the beginning. I have always respected girls/women but that clearly isn’t a good thing because many seem to only enjoy the company of men who don’t respect them or have no consideration for their feelings. Basically a caveman is what they are after who can be an alpha male and have many women on the side.

Personally I don’t think girls deserve my attention anymore, especially those who I’ve invested my time in for long periods in Newcastle and seen no return out of. By return I mean a “let’s meet for..dinner/shopping/coffee etc”.

In 2013 I plan to not get emotionally involved with anyone and just keep it to a simple conversation whether it’s in person or on a social network. I feel hurt and don’t think I can trust people anytime soon. Someone would have to really care about me and be there for me if they want me to open up to them or even invest my time in them.

Enjoy New Year!
Naveed

Hard Life


I’ve always had to work hard myself to achieve any goals that I set for myself. They were never easy like it is for some, things always went  bad for me and I had to do stuff the hard way.

Long story but I’m kind of unlucky. But it has made me a strong person and I love to be faced with a challenge now because I feel very satisfied when I work hard and achieve anything.

There are many challenges I face at the moment involving family health problems, personal issues and other unlucky challenges I keep facing. I can never get what I want the easy way like some may be able to. I have to go through a lot before I finally achieve any goals.

I am really happy with the person I am today because having to work hard and not have it handed to me has made me mentally strong, confident, ambitious, enthusiastic and helpful. I feel great satisfaction from helping others who might have issues because I can connect with others and show compassion.

I don’t like to go on about myself so I will talk about something else now.

I believe this World we live in can be much better if we could be patient and not let ourselves become angry over small issues. Everyone has to face some sort of challenge in life to get what they want and there are some who can’t and resort to making others feel bad or taking it from them.

There is still some discrimination in this World and it is not perfect. I never felt any of that in University because of everyone being from different backgrounds. Together we are able to be effective by using the knowledge and advantages from our cultures. Individually we have some weaknesses and that does not help. As I said working together with different people helps us become better.

Most important point I wanted to make is that living in Newcastle for many years I have always felt that my family and myself have never felt accepted by our own kind (Pakistani Community). I don’t know if this is because of wealth, status or what. I hate the fact that many girls who have well off parents consider themselves to be better than others and be stuck up when talking to anyone who isn’t. They forget that at one time their ancestors were living in Pakistan and maybe not well-off. A person should not be like that to others because your fortune in life can change in a second.

I don’t like these divisions we have in our own culture/community. It causes issues between people and makes someone who is less unfortunate for a period to accept the challenge and work hard to show them they are not low class people. This actually is good in some ways because hunger to be someone drives you very hard to achieve your goals. To people like me and others who have that drive actually are put in a situation where they believe anything is possible. Just think of the Rocky movies that show someone who is unfortunate and because of the situation he is in he just has to achieve his goals. The hunger and drive of a person can help achieve anything. When someone is not in a bad situation and is surrounded by a family with no issues they may not feel the urge to achieve that success.

I am not saying people who have a healthy family environment or financial stability do not achieve anything. I am stating that if you are in a family environment where people are depending on your success and drive to bring stability then you will face the impossible to make it possible. We are natural survivors and the situations we are born into or put into can not be helped because we don’t decide the environment. So anyone who looks down upon another or can not even communicate with their own kind (humans, pakistani, british etc) is not a good person at all.

I have experienced it many times when Pakistani girls judge you straight away and don’t communicate in any friendly or human manner. They will see you as some burden if you can not help them gain anything in life, for example many I’ve realised in Newcastle are looking for the rich guy who they can marry and leech off from. At University many of my friends were from different backgrounds but none of the girls were from my own background (Pakistani). Why? Well because they chose very carefully who they wanted to talk to and usually it was the guys who had the expensive car and wealthy family. These kind of differences would hurt me a lot and make me feel as if I had to prove something.

In the end I didn’t bother with them because I would not waste my time on people who are so materialistic and full of pride with no rock solid foundations of life. I just dislike Pakistani girls in Newcastle because they are the most stubborn and stuck-up. You would say “Hi” in person, Facebook or Twitter and you would get this look or reaction as if you’re a piece of garbage. I would rather marry a Pakistani girl from Pakistan any day of the week instead of any Pakistani girl in the UK. They have no consideration for religion, culture or tradition. All they see is how wealthy a guy is and if they can marry him and not have to live any kind of hard life. They want a life full of leisure and no hard work like our Pakistani ancestors had. I would not want a person in my life who raised my/her children to have things handed to them on a plate.

7 things men find unattractive about women


Unattractive female habit 1: Being too drunk

We all love a girl who knows how to have a good time but when she’s had such a good time that she’s slumped over a bar with her knickers tucked into her skirt and toilet paper trailing from her shoe, it’s not attractive and it doesn’t make us want to walk over and kiss you in a “hands off folks – she’s mine” kind of manner. You ladies also have the tendency to speak so loud that you drown the music out in a loud bar when you’re drunk. There’s nothing wrong with getting merry, but when everyone starts looking at us because we’re with “that drunk woman” who is putting her skirt over her head and laughing hysterically, it’s embarrassing.

Men find drunk women unattractiveMen find drunk women unattractive

Unattractive female habit 2: Talking about bodily functions

Yes, we know we agreed not to keep secrets from each other but can we skip that rule on this occasion? The day we realised that women do ‘number twos’ was the day  our world came crashing down, bringing all our sexual fantasies down with it. When you’re spending a long time in the bathroom, we like to think that it’s because you’re refreshing your makeup and hair. We could possibly – emphasis on the word “possibly” – stretch our imagination to think that you may be going for a tinkle, but we’d rather not. Please don’t talk about any of your bodily functions; leave topics about “the time of the month” and your bowel movements for your girl friends.

Unattractive female habit 3: Excessive body hair

We associate body hair with testosterone and testicles so seeing it in excessive amounts on a woman can be quite a turn off.  We know it’s painful to go through the rigmarole of waxing, plucking, epilating, and whatever other fancy hair removal systems you use (notice how we know all about this stuff because it’s one of those things you nag about?) but at least keep it trimmed so it looks presentable.

Unattractive female habit 4: Too much makeup

It’s great to take pride in your appearance and that goes for clothes, hair, and makeup too. If this is a first date, wearing minimal makeup to enhance your looks is sexier than the overdone look, in our opinion. If we’ve been together for a while, we love you no matter how much makeup you wear, but we’d prefer it if you kept it to a minimum. Purple, pink and green eye shadow with red lips? Someone pass my sunglasses. We go in for a kiss and end up looking like a clown from the circus and it isn’t a good look for either of us. Ladies, if you insist on wearing that much makeup, please refrain from snuggling up on our shoulders – that’s my favourite white shirt you just stained with your makeup.

Unattractive female habit 5: Belittling us

We can just about cope with being called “snuggle bunny” and “baby boy” but when you belittle us to the point that we look stupid in front of other people, that’s one step too far. Don’t correct everything we do and say as if we don’t know anything. Just because we do things differently to you, that doesn’t mean that your way is right.

Unattractive female habit 6: Swearing

We can forgive you the odd cheeky swear word, but when you’re effing and jeffing like there’s no tomorrow it can be a real turn-off for some men. We like our ladies with a touch of class and cramming your vocabulary with swear words doesn’t quite ooze sophistication. What’s wrong with using normal words to express your feelings? Dictionaries and thesauruses are brimming with options – take your pick. We’re not suggesting that you express your feelings using sentences such as “I am feeling ever so disenchanted” or “I’m awfully embittered by this” but saying something along the lines of “I am flipping angry” or “this is blimming frustrating” are much nicer replacements for sentences packed with foul words.

Unattractive female habit 7: Nagging

We’ve spent long enough silently moaning to ourselves about how annoying women are when they nag, that we’re taking this opportunity to get it off our chests once and for all. We can’t usually raise it in conversation you see, because no matter how delicately we approach the idea that you might possibly annoy us when you nag, we will be sentencing ourselves to even more endless nagging about pointing out that your nagging is getting too much. You nag at us for leaving the toilet seat up, you nag at us for “not caring”, you nag at us for not shaving for a few days… sheesh. Would you prefer us to go to the toilet sitting down? Would you prefer us to be over emotional? And perfectly groomed? Then you’d nag at us for not being manly enough. Three words: we can’t win.  Don’t mess with how nature intended men to be, and we won’t mess with how nature intended you to be. If you can’t handle that, then maybe you should be dating women. Sorted.

Source: http://uk.lifestyle.yahoo.com/7-things-men-unattractive-women-081007804.html?fb_action_ids=4082714504470%2C10151109679796995&fb_action_types=news.reads&fb_ref=type%3Aread%2Cuser%3AOIAcTPAUbxwKcoK4z2FT_m6asDg%2Ctype%3Aread%2Cuser%3Au19ob0r6yfiz3VdwVry0_drYiDs&fb_source=other_multiline&action_object_map=%7B%224082714504470%22%3A10151903746225181%2C%2210151109679796995%22%3A10150936918759290%7D&code=AQB_uV5terRsh4FKJ6k33HolATnYcS5zrzh7haZd5vIQO1ckkglnmpPPc76YeTXTrpv5OT-shlr-D4OpCfGNDLyenYiIEaBx4vOPlBhqeRHCP1RGHd8FmBs07689vl97DYPECwA5RA2FqJaXDdeG1N79n43OIKBO2Uo7w0CsIdsKN44PsqODKAMFNS2UdappT9U#_=_

Example of a Hurtful Geordie Girl!


I was like other nights just browsing the Twitter timeline and tweeting (starting conversations) people who I follow and follow me back. Most of my tweets which I’ll list below are usually kind, caring and friendly. I am never unfriendly when I start a conversation but when someone turns horrible then it may change but not in the beginning especially after many attempts of being calm and nice.

For example these are some of my friendly tweets:

I can’t display the horrible things that girl said after my tweet to me and her friends because she has protected her account now. I tweeted  a reply to a tweet of hers about ‘picturing’ someones ‘hair’ or something with “lol and I can picture your hair from the profile photo”.

My intentions were to have a laugh and just receive a tweet joking back or something because I usually banter with most of my friends from Newcastle in calm and funny manner. But guess what I was judged and tried without even getting to know me and who I am. I always believe that being nice is the best way to travel through life and be happy but many people don’t like that concept moreover many are self centered and have the attitude of “FUCK THE REST“.

I only got angry when this person tweeted some bad things about me to some other people she knew on Twitter. Yes after her first hurtful tweet I did post the following tweets to her:

As you can see I was not as rude as many would get in a situation like this and tried talking it out. I would have wanted to show her tweets so that you the reader had the chance to compare and see how some people can just be selfish and horrible.

Yes below is the girl I am talking about and you can see she is careless and got the “FUCK EVERYONE” attitude but when looks fade so will the attitude.

Reason why I have blogged about this is because I want to raise awareness of how hard it is for good guys in this city to meet any decent girl from Newcastle. A girl who can be nice, loyal, mature and caring. There are actually them girls in this city and I am friends with most of them but there are a few bad apples and that is actually the same situation everywhere in the World. But I would want to point out that most guys like myself just can’t trust girls in Newcastle anymore because they be nice for a few minutes and then they change even if you are in a relationship or just friendship.

I would want to be proven wrong by a girl who can be a long term good friend without any motive to gain something from a guy like me. Most good guys who are nice don’t be considered by these ‘PARTY’ girls in todays culture but when they hit the age of 35-40 their youth and looks are gone. They are all alone because the bad boys or which ever they preferred don’t want them and want only young women. That is when then they can’t find any good guys because they be taken by girls who don’t waste their youth on players. Same goes story goes for guys who you find middle aged and alone at some bar/club with no wife and kids.