Sorry For My Absence


I am very sorry for my absence from my blog.

How can I explain it but I am in love and just working really hard all the time to get my wife to the United Kingdom. Nothing is more important to me than getting my wife here and have moments where I can look into her eyes every morning.

I can say I am very happy at the moment and I still enjoy taking photos and writing on my blogs but my time is consumed with work and other responsibilities. Much of my life I can not write about on public blogs anymore because my wife would not like anything we talk about shared on the worldwide web.

I love to read books but I don’t have any time to enjoy them any more. Hate myself for not making time to read books because I love reading and I state again ‘books’ as in real books that are made of paper and not an iPad which I do own by the way.

Thank you for reading I shall attempt to use my iPad Mini to write regularly.

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Hard Life


I’ve always had to work hard myself to achieve any goals that I set for myself. They were never easy like it is for some, things always went  bad for me and I had to do stuff the hard way.

Long story but I’m kind of unlucky. But it has made me a strong person and I love to be faced with a challenge now because I feel very satisfied when I work hard and achieve anything.

There are many challenges I face at the moment involving family health problems, personal issues and other unlucky challenges I keep facing. I can never get what I want the easy way like some may be able to. I have to go through a lot before I finally achieve any goals.

I am really happy with the person I am today because having to work hard and not have it handed to me has made me mentally strong, confident, ambitious, enthusiastic and helpful. I feel great satisfaction from helping others who might have issues because I can connect with others and show compassion.

I don’t like to go on about myself so I will talk about something else now.

I believe this World we live in can be much better if we could be patient and not let ourselves become angry over small issues. Everyone has to face some sort of challenge in life to get what they want and there are some who can’t and resort to making others feel bad or taking it from them.

There is still some discrimination in this World and it is not perfect. I never felt any of that in University because of everyone being from different backgrounds. Together we are able to be effective by using the knowledge and advantages from our cultures. Individually we have some weaknesses and that does not help. As I said working together with different people helps us become better.

Most important point I wanted to make is that living in Newcastle for many years I have always felt that my family and myself have never felt accepted by our own kind (Pakistani Community). I don’t know if this is because of wealth, status or what. I hate the fact that many girls who have well off parents consider themselves to be better than others and be stuck up when talking to anyone who isn’t. They forget that at one time their ancestors were living in Pakistan and maybe not well-off. A person should not be like that to others because your fortune in life can change in a second.

I don’t like these divisions we have in our own culture/community. It causes issues between people and makes someone who is less unfortunate for a period to accept the challenge and work hard to show them they are not low class people. This actually is good in some ways because hunger to be someone drives you very hard to achieve your goals. To people like me and others who have that drive actually are put in a situation where they believe anything is possible. Just think of the Rocky movies that show someone who is unfortunate and because of the situation he is in he just has to achieve his goals. The hunger and drive of a person can help achieve anything. When someone is not in a bad situation and is surrounded by a family with no issues they may not feel the urge to achieve that success.

I am not saying people who have a healthy family environment or financial stability do not achieve anything. I am stating that if you are in a family environment where people are depending on your success and drive to bring stability then you will face the impossible to make it possible. We are natural survivors and the situations we are born into or put into can not be helped because we don’t decide the environment. So anyone who looks down upon another or can not even communicate with their own kind (humans, pakistani, british etc) is not a good person at all.

I have experienced it many times when Pakistani girls judge you straight away and don’t communicate in any friendly or human manner. They will see you as some burden if you can not help them gain anything in life, for example many I’ve realised in Newcastle are looking for the rich guy who they can marry and leech off from. At University many of my friends were from different backgrounds but none of the girls were from my own background (Pakistani). Why? Well because they chose very carefully who they wanted to talk to and usually it was the guys who had the expensive car and wealthy family. These kind of differences would hurt me a lot and make me feel as if I had to prove something.

In the end I didn’t bother with them because I would not waste my time on people who are so materialistic and full of pride with no rock solid foundations of life. I just dislike Pakistani girls in Newcastle because they are the most stubborn and stuck-up. You would say “Hi” in person, Facebook or Twitter and you would get this look or reaction as if you’re a piece of garbage. I would rather marry a Pakistani girl from Pakistan any day of the week instead of any Pakistani girl in the UK. They have no consideration for religion, culture or tradition. All they see is how wealthy a guy is and if they can marry him and not have to live any kind of hard life. They want a life full of leisure and no hard work like our Pakistani ancestors had. I would not want a person in my life who raised my/her children to have things handed to them on a plate.

Homemade Pakistani Food


All the food in the photos below was cooked by Mum in the space of 1 day. Much of the ingredients were from the garden and the food was delicious because of using fresh produce. Other people in Newcastle (Pakistani Women/Girl) can’t cook this way because they don’t want to put any effort into it and just use ingredients from boxes or tins which don’t have any real taste, reason why much of the food tastes alike and bland.

I can honestly say that there are not many people who can cook like this because some Pakistani girls won’t try to learn it themselves or from their parents, dislike Pakistani girls especially who can’t cook. Reason why I dislike them is because Pakistani people have a lot of pride and cooking good food is very important to them just like the Italians. For God sake even my Dad can cook more dishes than many of the Pakistani girls that I know in Newcastle.

May be one reason I’m better off marrying a girl who is from Pakistan and knows how to cook good Pakistani food.

1. Dal Lentil Dish with Fresh Coriander from the garden:

Dal Lentil Dish

2. Sweet Rice:

Sweet Rice

3. Lamb Pilau Rice:

Lamb Pilau Rice

4. Can You Cook This? This Is how you cook a Chicken Korma and not that bland crap you get from takeaways and retail store outlets:

Chicken Korma inc Fresh Coriander

5. Kheer Desert made Fresh at Home:

Kheer Desert with grinded Almonds & Pistachio sprinkled on top

6. Mixed Salad:

Mixed Salad

7. Chickpea Yoghurt (Homemade Yoghurt) with fresh Chutney made by my Dad with Fresh Ingredients. Chutney Mix which was made separate to this included red & green chillies, mint from garden (has great smell) and other ingredients:

Chickpea Yoghurt

Dancing is Non-Permissible in Islam


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There are two type of dances which are held at the time of marriage or other ceremonies or for mere pleasure without any occasion. One type is in which professional singing and dancing girls are engaged and they dance usually in gatherings of males only. The other type is in which a women of house-hold or professional dancer dances among the females with movements of different parts of the body. Now-a-days another type has developed due to cinema and TV in which boys and girls dance together on the tunes of film songs. All such dances are irreligious and forbidden.

Adultery is of different kinds-actual, of eyes, ears, tounge, heart, hand etc and in such dances men are prone to commit and they do commit one or other type of adultery. The evils and sins of dances are self-evident. Men look and gaze at naked or semi-naked parts of an alien women, it is an adultery of the eyes. They listen to her voice, it is an adultery of the ears. They talk and make jokes with her, it is an adultery of the tongue. Their hearts are attracted towards her, it is an adultery of the heart. Some are so shameless who even touch her, this is an adultery of the hand. They sometimes advance towards her and even dance with her, this is an adultery of the feet. Some even indulge in sexual intercourse with her, which is actual adultery and fornication.

Same is the case of dancing by family girls and boys. It is not permitted even without instruments and drums. Such dances are also accompanied by all the evils already mentioned. Household women and girls memorise film and love songs and they sing and dance on their tunes. Their voice is heard by na-mehram and sometimes they are also seen by men. Such young girls and women are often lead astray and they become corrupt. Hence dances are sinful and irreligious.

It has been clearly stated in the Holy Traditions that just as adultery is a major sin, in the same way the actions of gazing and hearing, touching etc are all sins. The committing of a sin publicly is a major and worst sin according to religion code.

It has been reported in a Tradition that when obscenity, immodesty and shamelessness become so common in any community that people begin to commit them publicly, then be sure that epidemics will spread in that community to such an extent as would have not occured before. Now imagine, when it is such an evil then how great sinners are those, who arrange or take part in such things. (Reason why I don’t go to any Pakistani weddings anymore because many try to follow what others are doing in Newcastle or UK in general)

The sin also becomes an epidemic, if one arranged such a function and some others followed his/her example. So long as the sinful activity started by one continues, its sins also will be continued to be recorded against him/her even after his death. The use of musical instruments is also a sin in itself.

The Holy Prophet Sallam has said that Allah has ordered him to break all these musical instruments. Then judge the greatness of the sin of the person spreads this evil for which the Holy Prophet Sallam has been ordered by Allah to break and abolish them.

Some people regard it as a mark of respect and dignity. Boasting on sin and to think its avoidence as insulting, strikes at the very root of faith and losing of faith is a major sin. So it is the duty of every Muslim to refrain from things forbidden by Shariat just  as they hate anything offensive to their nature. May Allah protect us all from evil. Aameen

You are not born a Muslim, You have to earn it from Practice!


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Muslims and other people who are not Muslims are so careless, dirty, corrupt, ignorant that they have truly forgotten their roots! Allah (SWT) will be washing away all this dirt soon because Muslims do not follow anything the Quran and Prophets told us.

Everyone is of some advantage and then of no value afterwards. For e.g. Eid used to be about being with your Family and being happy with how much they have, now it’s about buying so many Eid clothes and showing them off. If girls or boys do not get a lot of money or clothes then they be angry at their parents and commit sin by making them feel down for not getting them what they want. Fair enough children do not understand when they are young and are not aware of Islam fully but adults or even teenagers should be educated enough by parents and from self-studying that Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) at times did not even have enough money to buy his children new clothes for Eid. It is not essential to spend so much on Eid and not consider what Our Prophet had to endure so us Muslims could today have a better life in this World.

Don’t get me started on the typical modern Muslim weddings when Allah (SWT) has told us it is forbidden to dance about like idiots or women wearing clothes that show their shoulders, spine and even stomach these days.  In today’s World there is the traditional Mehndi which in the old days people would apply some Mehndi on the bride or groom and just have a celebration with family and friends gathered around without any dancing or any other sins. I myself do not agree with any of the dancing at the Mehndi or Wedding and will not allow that when my time comes. Pakistani, Bengali and other Muslim people have forgotten their roots just by simply being a modern British Muslim. When our great grandparents had to suffer the partition or British Empire they did not think it was essential for all this and the most they would give their son or daughter for their wedding were clothes, appliances, dishes and other things that would help them in life rather than a big party with cash being thrown arround.

I personally get very angry at those occasions because I have an understanding of how they suffered when my grandmother told me some Pakistani mothers children were killed and their heads stuck on pike. My grandmother told me it was horrible and they left their home behind in India and had nothing to eat on the way to Pakistan‘s Punjab region. She also lost her own father on the way because the water in the wells was poisoned along the way.

It makes me angry because many of our Muslims do not appreciate and live by the way of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and of the way Allah (SWT) told us to. This all can be found in the Quran and the life of our Prophet but still people choose to ignore it and become very western in their approach to life. Everyone makes mistakes and we can not fully live up to the Prophet but we can try by educating ourselves and not choosing to ignore it.

Many of the modern Muslims find it a burden to live with their parents or even have to look after them when they are old. In fact as Muslims we should be looking after our parents and not moving away from them just so we can do what we want or live with our partner, some Muslims still live with their parents with their partner and they both look after them. Prophet and Allah (SWT) have told us if we want to enter the gates of heaven then we must earn it because the two gates to Heaven are the Father and Mother. In most cases what goes around comes back around, meaning if you don’t consider your parents feelings and take care of them when they are old and fulfil your duty as a Muslim or son/daughter then your kids will do exactly the same to you. You only realise what you have done wrong when you experience it yourself and by then it’s too late and your parents are not alive for you to ask forgiveness from them.

I have educated myself with my religion very well and keep on that path by practicing it. I will write much more about what we should be doing as children, teens, adults and parents. Allah (SWT) and Prophet (PBUH) have given us a clear guideline and I will be writing some aspects of what we as Muslims should do. This can be marriage, wedding, Eid, funeral and many other activities in our lives.