Hard Life

I’ve always had to work hard myself to achieve any goals that I set for myself. They were never easy like it is for some, things always went  bad for me and I had to do stuff the hard way.

Long story but I’m kind of unlucky. But it has made me a strong person and I love to be faced with a challenge now because I feel very satisfied when I work hard and achieve anything.

There are many challenges I face at the moment involving family health problems, personal issues and other unlucky challenges I keep facing. I can never get what I want the easy way like some may be able to. I have to go through a lot before I finally achieve any goals.

I am really happy with the person I am today because having to work hard and not have it handed to me has made me mentally strong, confident, ambitious, enthusiastic and helpful. I feel great satisfaction from helping others who might have issues because I can connect with others and show compassion.

I don’t like to go on about myself so I will talk about something else now.

I believe this World we live in can be much better if we could be patient and not let ourselves become angry over small issues. Everyone has to face some sort of challenge in life to get what they want and there are some who can’t and resort to making others feel bad or taking it from them.

There is still some discrimination in this World and it is not perfect. I never felt any of that in University because of everyone being from different backgrounds. Together we are able to be effective by using the knowledge and advantages from our cultures. Individually we have some weaknesses and that does not help. As I said working together with different people helps us become better.

Most important point I wanted to make is that living in Newcastle for many years I have always felt that my family and myself have never felt accepted by our own kind (Pakistani Community). I don’t know if this is because of wealth, status or what. I hate the fact that many girls who have well off parents consider themselves to be better than others and be stuck up when talking to anyone who isn’t. They forget that at one time their ancestors were living in Pakistan and maybe not well-off. A person should not be like that to others because your fortune in life can change in a second.

I don’t like these divisions we have in our own culture/community. It causes issues between people and makes someone who is less unfortunate for a period to accept the challenge and work hard to show them they are not low class people. This actually is good in some ways because hunger to be someone drives you very hard to achieve your goals. To people like me and others who have that drive actually are put in a situation where they believe anything is possible. Just think of the Rocky movies that show someone who is unfortunate and because of the situation he is in he just has to achieve his goals. The hunger and drive of a person can help achieve anything. When someone is not in a bad situation and is surrounded by a family with no issues they may not feel the urge to achieve that success.

I am not saying people who have a healthy family environment or financial stability do not achieve anything. I am stating that if you are in a family environment where people are depending on your success and drive to bring stability then you will face the impossible to make it possible. We are natural survivors and the situations we are born into or put into can not be helped because we don’t decide the environment. So anyone who looks down upon another or can not even communicate with their own kind (humans, pakistani, british etc) is not a good person at all.

I have experienced it many times when Pakistani girls judge you straight away and don’t communicate in any friendly or human manner. They will see you as some burden if you can not help them gain anything in life, for example many I’ve realised in Newcastle are looking for the rich guy who they can marry and leech off from. At University many of my friends were from different backgrounds but none of the girls were from my own background (Pakistani). Why? Well because they chose very carefully who they wanted to talk to and usually it was the guys who had the expensive car and wealthy family. These kind of differences would hurt me a lot and make me feel as if I had to prove something.

In the end I didn’t bother with them because I would not waste my time on people who are so materialistic and full of pride with no rock solid foundations of life. I just dislike Pakistani girls in Newcastle because they are the most stubborn and stuck-up. You would say “Hi” in person, Facebook or Twitter and you would get this look or reaction as if you’re a piece of garbage. I would rather marry a Pakistani girl from Pakistan any day of the week instead of any Pakistani girl in the UK. They have no consideration for religion, culture or tradition. All they see is how wealthy a guy is and if they can marry him and not have to live any kind of hard life. They want a life full of leisure and no hard work like our Pakistani ancestors had. I would not want a person in my life who raised my/her children to have things handed to them on a plate.


Facebook Adoption

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When you first started using Facebook you were excited to have access to a tool which helped communicate with present and long lost friends. Facebook makes it convenient for people to communicate with each other, streaming environment unlike the email. The tool does only inform you of other people’s lives unlike Twitter the broadcasting tool of all news.

I did a dissertation related to Diffusion of Innovations for my final year at the University of Sunderland, business and product selected to test and explain the theory was Apple’s iPod’s. Now every product or service goes through this process and it is similar to the product life cycle.

The ‘Diffusion of Innovations’ however is different because it involves the rate of the social system at adopting an innovation.  For example with Apple’s iPod it was the loyal brand consumers and technology enthusiasts who were the innovators, early adopters were influenced by the exclusive product that the innovators carried around. Early adopters helped the product be a success by influencing others such as the early majority. The ‘rate of adoption’ can be slow or fast and every innovation is unique in that way, cooperation’s that have had previous success may see a fast ‘rate of adoption’ in the social system.

Everett Rogers popularised the theory in his book back in 1962 ‘Diffusion of Innovations’ and the 2010 edition is available now.

Back to the main topic, Facebook went through exactly the same process except it had no brand followers and it were ‘geeks’ and friends of the owner who were the innovators in the ‘rate of adoption’ model. As time went by it was adopted in the social system by the younger generation at first and then the older generation who are known as the late majority for now. Now from that Facebook changed and your experience changed as a user because it was not exclusive. Below is a list of the ‘type of people’ you may have on your Facebook account, parents and older relatives for example would not be on that list in 2007.

In order of importance to a majority on Facebook:

  1. Relative
  2. Intimate Relationship
  3. Mutual Friend
  4. Online Friend
  5. Just a Facebook Number

Another blog post in the future will explain in detail the various types of ‘Facebook Friends’ that are listed above.

Let’s Invade a Country

Proud To Be A Muslim

Maybe non-Muslims should have stayed out of muslim countries if they never understood our religion. Would USA attack aliens on a planet who cause no threat just because they do not understand their life. Muslims or China never interferes with Countries in the West and they dnt invade countries if they are low in resources! T.E Lawrence told the West that a guest in your house is only welcome for a few days, after a while you want them gone. He also told us that invading other countries does not benefit either side and that you have to understand someone’s culture and religion. #TELawrence clearly did because he was among Muslims. Some people like in Universities in England do not try to understand Muslims even though we interact with them on daily basis.

Asian Culture & University

Sunday 30th January 2011

After a good night of thinking things over about my life and the people around me I have chosen to go back to my roots. My grandmother was someone very special who survived the British Empire and Massacre of the India and Pakistan Partition. I obviously would not be here if my grandmother had not been healthy and survived all them Wars back in the early 19th century. She always said our culture was different and that we should use the herbal remedies and other herbal products because they were natural and good for any human being, grandmother knew best as she lived a hard life and used natural ingrediants for food and personal use.

I have decided to follow that lifestyle as after much thought I’m just another stranger in this country even though I was born here and I’m a British Citizen because of it. Being a British Citizen still is no benefit as I’m still someone who has tried all his life to fit into society in the UK but I feel I’m always going to be seen as someone who’s a different colour with a different culture and most of all a Muslim. Reasons why I’ve embraced my culture again and my religion as it gave me spiritual peace and future insight. Meditating is a great thing and I want that back as I don’t believe following what others do just to be liked or be their friend has helped, following and changing for different groups of people has made me forget who I am.

Back to University on Monday 31st January 2011 and preparing my books and notes to take with me tomorrow. I have promised myself that I will say ‘No’ more often as I say ‘Yes’ too often and be a fool. I will just have to work hard and keep quiet as I should have and remember to focus on my university dissertation. Need to keep things to myself more often and be willing to say ‘No’ to others. I was dedicated to my university work before but I will be working even harder now and only focusing on achieving spiritual peace morever meditating. Will certainly not leave my culture and beliefs just to fit in with others furthermore if they can’t accept who I am without me doing what they do then I am happy alone as I got Allah (God) and that is enough.

Reading Quran and Praying always helps me find inner peace and make me happy.

I can say for sure at the end of this post I may be alone but I got my culture and religion. We have come alone to this world and will die alone so no one can say they will take their friends or boyfriend/girlfriend with them, good deeds in this world and praying to show appreciation for what you have everyday to Allah (God) is what will help you after this life.

Naveed Ahmed

Post-Graduate Job & Friendship

Tuesday 15th January 2011

Applied for two post-graduate vacancies which are very far from home, far away will be good. I will be looking for more vacancies and applying in local areas too. There is a feeling of being lost again like in the teenage years but I am strong and will cope with whatever challenges I face.

I hope i get a 2:1 in my degree at least.

What else? I feel as every week, month and year goes by I am loosing my friends and especially loosing my bond with my best friend. Dinners and other activities have really not helped as we have a different level of understanding  and he don’t talk about anything that is different from before or intellectual. I can probably say I don’t have a best friend anymore or any good friend who is constantly or regular communicating with me and I believe social networking has killed off any friends I had. I don’t mind people doing what’s important in life but its always nice to have a group of friends which you feel your part of but I’m not part of anything.

I guess I’m learning very important lessons as life goes on and I believe people will always call themselves my friends so I’m some benefit to them but I don’t want to be anyones asset. If people keep going on like this then I will always perceive people as another step on a ladder and start using them instead to achieve what I want,  I do already think I am in University to achieve the goals I have set myself and not to make any friends. If someone wants to be friendly then fair enough but I don’t care anymore because University is not forever and I am only their to achieve a target in life and move on.It is always nice to make friends along the way for life but you can never force anyone to be your friend and that is fair enough as I know how i’ve endured pain in my life and I am stronger and never given up, others would have given up, no ones ever asked so I’ve never told anyone.

Not down at all about this!

Thanks to anyone who reads this as I am only reporting what I am experiencing and this is a blog to express myself and if someone doesn’t like it then they should not read it or be part of my life. Friends are always their for you when you are up or down!

Thank You